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Locating The G Spot, Htting the G Spot and The G Spot Orgasm

The G-Spot

There is still an argument over whether the g-spot really exists. A gynaecologist Dr. Jones Stewart on concluding his study wrote in an article for Times Magazine in 1983 that women that had the area supposedly contained the g-spot, surgically removed reported no loss of sensation.

The belief of the general public though is that the g-spot is a reality with one study concluding that 84% of women believing that there is a “highly sensitive area” in the vagina. Modern day publishing discuss the g-spot as if it a medical truth.

The g-spot or Grafenberg Spot (named after its discoverer, a German gynaecologist called Ernst Grafenberg) is a small highly sensitive area located 5-8cm (2-5 inches) inside the vagina on the front upper wall. The g-spot is said to be the female equivalent of the male prostate gland. Women have even found they ejaculate a fluid if they have an orgasm by stimulation of the g-spot, researchers in North America claim the fluids composition is similar to the secretion of the prostate gland.

The g-spot is located beneath the urethral sponge. This explains why many women feel they have to pee when their g-spot is stimulated with every woman having a urethral sponge then every woman must have a g-spot.

The mystery around the g-spot can be partly explained by the common misconception surrounding it. It modern parlance many women believe the g-spot to be a “sex button” that can be pressed like a starter button, at anytime to cause an erotic explosion. Then as a result during love-making when this is the case and an erotic explosion does not appear leads many women to believe that the g-spot doesn’t exist. The g-spot mystery continues I believe because of a lack of understanding of the g-spot. The g-spot should be considered more as an “erotic zone” as Grafenberg himself described it.

I think many women who claim not to enjoy or notice g-spot stimulation are more then likely not using the correct technique or using sufficiently firm pressure on it so that the g-spot is being stimulated. First though us girls have to locate the g-spot and don’t worry many women find it difficult to locate the g-spot.

Locating the G-Spot

The g-spot is a bean shaped group of nerves tissues located halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the top of the cervix. The size and position of the g-spot differs from women to women, but it is usually about the size of a quarter, and lies 2-3 inches inside the vagina directly behind the pubic bone. Women sometimes cannot find their own g-spot. Here are some tips to help all women.

Technique for Finding the G-Spot

Right ladies make sure you are relaxed and comfortable and plenty of time set aside to give your time to explore and experiment.

• Girls lay down, knees bent and feet flat on the bed with a small pillow under your buttocks.

• Then insert your lubricated fingers into your vagina towards your navel about 2 inches inside your vagina.  

• Press with either one or two fingers against the front wall of your vagina applying a little more pressure than usual, as the g-spot is surrounded with tissue and is deep in the vaginal wall.

• Move your fingers from side to side until you start to feel when that you are hitting the right spot. It should feel ridged unlike the rest of the vagina that is smooth. It will then as a result through stimulation swell and firm like the erectile tissue in a penis.

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How to Self-Pleasure Yourself to a G-Spot Orgasm

First of all please empty your bladder before self-love as women do get a feeling to urinate when the g-spot is first stimulated as we recorded earlier.

Girls to directly stimulate the g-spot lay on your back with your feet flat on the floor with your legs apart. Using the thumb of one hand start stimulating the clitoris, then girls slowly insert two finger as far as possible into the vagina and rub against the bottom of the vaginal opening until, pressuring upward with the tips of your fingers from side to side exerting pressure upwards. If the fingers are more sharply upwards your can rock forwards and back in a circular motion with consistent, firm pressure along the entire length of the vagina walls.

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To increase the pleasure thrust your hand in and out simulating penis intercourse then exert pressure upwards when withdrawing so that the g-spot is involved. If you want to really get yourself all hot a bothered remember to stimulate the clitoris as well or use the other hand to touch other erotic zones such as the nipples.

What to Remember When Stimulating the G-Spot

• Women need firm pressure to the front of the vagina, quick rhythm and friction to have g-spot orgasms.

• Women may ejaculate a small amount of a white clear fluid when she has a g-spot orgasm.

• Please be careful girls and short nail are recommended.

• It may help to use a water based lubricant and wash you hands thoroughly with hot soapy water afterwards.  

G-Spot Tips

Variety is the spice of life so experiment with using smooth, round beads placed in the fingertips of some latex gloves (use a water based lubricant because oil based lubes break down latex gloves) to provide more intense sensations when the hand is inserted into the vagina.

Another extra tip that isn’t do to with self-pleasure but I though I would like to add is to say rear-entry/doggy position is the best during intercourse to stimulate the g-spot as the penis presses against the front wall of the vagina, particularly with the man on the top and a pillow beneath the hips.

The G-Spot Conclusion

The g-spot really does exist and with only a little patience and experimentation any girl can soon understand the power and excitement that g-spot stimulation can accomplish. There are techniques that involve using a dildo to simulate the penis in vaginal intercourse that really can be fun when self-pleasuring concentrating on the g-spot. Using the dildo instead of your fingers as in the methods explained above.

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The Point of Self pleasure

This is very important but please remember that pleasuring yourself is not about how many times you come to an orgasm or even if you orgasm at all. It is about pleasing yourself, making you feel like no one else can.

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Self pleasure and Guilt 

“I feel guilty masturbating”, that is a recurring theme in the emails I get from my readers. The guilt of self pleasure differs within each case. I cannot begin to cover all the eventualities here but this section is an open discussion that I hope will allow women to see that self pleasure far from being something to feel guilty about should be something that is embraced and enjoyed.

Self pleasure has been condemned for a long time. Religion cast it as a sin and although we have moved on as people to become more self aware the stigma attached to self pleasure has stuck with some people still unable to truly feel comfortable about gaining pleasure from their own body.

In fact the sense of guilt is very important to in woman; they refrain from self pleasure more than men and admit to it less easily. This can be a result of repressive mind-sets of certain parents can prompt a later sense of guiltiness. The guilt from self-love can also be credited to fantasies that can go back to childhood that are connected to self pleasure. Which then makes a women feel guilty to revive them when they have a well rewarding sexual life.

Self pleasure isn’t dirty, dishonourable, or hazardous for the health. Unbelievably though self-pleasure has been considered for a long time to be a bad habit which is due to centuries of mis-education and prejudice that have turned something that should be enjoyable into something guilty. The present day translation maintains the disapproving image alive: to masturbate comes from the association of two Latin words, manus (hand) and stuprare (soil, make dirty). Self pleasure doesn’t make you wrong, mad or even give you acne. It can be a sign of emotional problems if it becomes compulsive but it really is something to embrace.

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Women can feel guilty about resorting to self pleasure, as if they stole something from their significant other: if to be fulfilled by self pleasure leads you to decline sex with your partner, obviously there is a predicament. But, in a couple, it is not necessary that we do everything together; must all pleasure be strictly shared? Sports, music and shopping do you have to do them all together? When self pleasure isn’t an escape, but a search for a balance, then you both will be at ease, and can experience a healthy sex life without tension. Where as frustration due to an insufficient sexuality might cause you to resent your partner, and even wish to turn away from sex with him or her.

In fact self pleasure can be practiced in front of a partner. In a lot of couples it proves to be very exciting. It can be the best means to learn how a lover prefers to be stimulated. Each can guide the hand of the partner to show him/her which pressure and which rhythm the woman prefers. Mutual self pleasure can really spice up a sex life and open the door to experimentation. One’s desire can be increased by seeing the pleasure of the other. One can also self-love before or during sexual intercourse: it serves then as a prelude, increases the excitement, or allows the couple to perfect sexual intercourse.

The use of self-pleasure open up doors to other possibilities it can reduce the over use of vaginal penetration and bring in a new area of enjoyment and variety into the bedroom. It offers many different ways for women to reach orgasm and other types of pleasure. In women it can bring a force of excitement that is not allowed by either the softness of a vagina nor the obligation to hold on for a certain time.

In conclusion there are a many ways women can live out their sexuality. Self pleasure is one: by yourself or in the presence of a partner, frequent or occasional, solitary or mutually shared, it colours the life of one person, is absent in the life of another one, is accessible with out ever being imposed, something that people can take or leave according to their impulse.

I hope that this article has opened up the prospect that self pleasure is really something that can have so many positive benefits for women and can really be a gateway to a more rewarding sex life for your partner and yourself. It is practised by many women and for most it has been something that has only helped them in life. This section only gives a general introduction to self pleasure and guilt and many women may still have questions or still feel unsure. Please read this article again and see that self pleasure can really be such a positive influence.

The Female Masturabtion Facts

I decided to through my website www.self-pleasurefowomen.com to undertake an online survey to find out how many women masturbate in some form or other I found the survey results fascinating.

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Please take into consideration people had to find my website and that those that did were probably more likely to masturbate than the norm. I still think the results are relevant and I decided to split the results into different age groups for further relevance.

Here are the results in the table below:-

The survey included results collected from a range of women from the differing age groups. The survey was collated by the 2168 women who were kind enough to answer my survey honestly and with great openness that I will always be truly grateful for.

The survey makes for very interesting reading and shows that for many women that masturbation is the norm and not the exception.

The highest age group that admits to masturbation are those in the 20-24 year old age range can be explained through a period of experimentation and self-discovery of their own bodies. Masturbation is the best way for these ladies to learn what they need to gain the most pleasure from their own bodies. These women have had several sexual partners and now sexualised want to work out what really works for them and are happy in their own selves to feel liberated enough to self-love.

The main reason for the downturn in numbers after the 20-24 year old age range can be attested to having children. Many women who answered my survey explain this too giving birth. Women explained that they had trouble getting back their sex drive in general after giving birth many ladies explained they simply didn’t feel like sex or masturbation for reason both mental and physical or simply through a lack of time or privacy once kids were factored into the equation.

The Women Who Own Sex Toys

In the next question in our survey we asked women whether they owned a sex toy to aid to their sex life or simply for self pleasure again the survey was split into separate ages for more understanding. Here are the results.

It appears that many women have a sex toy of some sort or other with most women explaining that for the most part they had a dildos but also Ben-Wa-Balls and beads as well. It also became apparent that many young women like to carry a dildo around them at all times in case of emergency use wherever they go.

From the survey and subsequent questions I was able to ask it was obvious that the use of sex toys were on the rise and many women owned more than one type of sex toy so that they could gain various sensations from the different sizes, shapes, materials and items that allows women to find what they need to please them.

These toys aren’t just used for self pleasuring and are now used by many people as part of their love-making routine.

The reasons being as we alluded to earlier about the empowerment of woman has led these ladies not to only want they want in the bedroom but also how they can best achieve the satisfaction they want. In recent surveys it has found that less than 38% of women can achieve an orgasm through penetration only. The majority of women need multiple stimuli to reach fulfilment.

It is through masturbation and self-discovery through the use of sex toys that women are now understanding through experimentation how best to reach orgasm. This then can then be related to the women’s partners who can then through sympathetic love-making help achieve the needs of each individual within the couple to accomplish a hedonistic and satisfying conclusion to sexual interaction.

Masturbation allows a woman to find whether she prefers clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration or G-Spot stimulation as the best way for her to reach an orgasm. It would also allow a lady to understand the pressure she needs or whether she has stroked or be touched and also if she can stand actual touching of her clitoris as for some ladies it can be too painful to have direct pressure on this part of their genitals.

In Conclusion

Masturbation is practised by the majority of women who will use any methods to gain what they want. I think the revolution has really been one that has allowed women to overcome many barriers and even allows ladies in certain situations to really feel in control not of their own bodies but their own destinies too.

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The Real Orgasm - The Truth Behind The Woman Orgasm

This is the second and final installment from self pleasure for women covering all aspects of the female orgasm.

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The Physical Response in Woman on Achieving Orgasm

The female orgasm normally last much longer than that of a man. It is preceded by the erection of the clitoris and the moistening of the vagina. In is not uncommon for the woman to experience a sexual flush which is a reddening of the skin over much of the body and can be explained due to the increase of blood flow in the body.

When a woman nears orgasm the clitoral glans moves inwards under the clitoral hood and the inner lips become darker. Closer to the orgasm a woman will experience a tightening and narrowing of the vagina with the overall vagina lengthening and dilating becoming congested with engorged soft tissue. The uterus then experiences muscular contractions. In woman the feeling a total orgasm happens when her uterus, vagina, anus and pelvic muscles undergo a series of rhythmic contractions. In most women the whole overall experience is extremely pleasurable. Once the orgasm has finished the clitoris re-emerges from under the hood and returns to normal size usually within ten minutes.

Orgasm and Health

Although I couldn’t find any health studies concerning woman and orgasm research on men and the orgasm and sex as a whole showed that the physical activity requires major exertion of many bodily functions. In 1997 a study by The British Medical Journal in 918 men between the ages of 45-59 then followed up 10 years later showed that men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any causes that those having at least two orgasms a week. In 2001 a follow up that was specifically focused on cardiovascular health found that having sex three times or more a week led to a 50% reduction in the chances of heart attack or stoke.

Achieving Orgasm

One of the main ways to achieve orgasm is by direct or indirect stimulation of he clitoris. This can be achieved a number of ways such as through sexual intercourse, manual masturbation, oral sex, non penetrative sex, a sensual vibrator or an erotic electro-stimulation. An orgasm can also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples or other erogenous zones. In the absence of physical stimulation orgasm can be accomplished from physiological arousal alone.

The G-spot is important for woman to realize an orgasm this is an internal gland called the Skene’s gland in woman.

Vaginal Orgasm

The female body can attain orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris and also from stimulation of the G-spot. Its full name is the Grafenberg spot and is a small area behind the female pubic bone surrounding the urethra and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina. There are certain scientists that believe only certain woman actually have a G-spot. The G-spot orgasm is sometimes referred to as “vaginal” because it results from stimulation inside the vagina, including during sexual intercourse. However please note only stimulation of the G-spot and other inner vaginal stimulation results in a “vaginal orgasm”.

There is great debate as two whether there is a two orgasm theory that there is a vaginl orgasm and a clitoral orgasm. Many believe that the two orgasm theory is a perception put forward by men and is heavily criticised by feminist such as Ellen Ross.

Freud was the first person to put forward the concept of a purely vaginal orgasm he argued without any evidence that a clitoral orgasm was an adolescent phenomnan and upon reaching puberty the proper response of a mature woman changes to a vaginal orgasm. This theory held parlance for a long time because many women felt inadequate when they could not achieve orgasm via vaginal intercourse that involved little or no clitoral stimulation.

The belief that most people now deem right now we have a greater understanding of the female genitalia and sexual organs is that the clitoris is much larger than we ever understood before is the clitoris actually extends inside and around the body of the vagina and complicates if not invalidates the vaginal vs. clitoral orgasm. Recent anatomical research shows that there are nerves connecting intravaginal tissues and the clitoris. This link between the clitoris and the vagina is evidence that the clitoris is the “seat” of the female orgasm and is far more widespread that the visible part most people associate with the clit. It may explain why some women can realize orgasm by sexual intercourse alone as the may have more extensive clitoral tissue and nerves than other women making an orgasm from penetrative sex possible.

Anal Stimulation

The anal orgasm is often talked about but often misunderstood it can be brought on by anal stimulation such as from anal sex, an inserted finger or sex toy. Anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or “vaginal” orgasm, though for many the distinction is less clear.

In both sexes pleasure can be gained from the nerve endings around the anus and the anus itself. It is known that anal-oral contact can still be pleasurable without stimulation of the clit.

Breast and Nipple Stimulation

It is pretty self explanatory a breast orgasm describes a female orgasm that is triggered by stimulation of the breast. It is not achievable by all women when their breast are stimulated but anecdotal evidence suggest that stimulation of the breast area during sexual intercourse and foreplay, or just simply having their breast fondled creates a more intense orgasm. One study claimed that 29% of woman had at one point or other had experienced a breast orgasm. The way it is explained is that stimulation of the nipples produces the hormone oxytocin which is produced in the body during sexual excitement in all other sexual circumstances.

Multiple Orgasms

Women sometimes don’t have or have a very small period of time between when they first experience an orgasm and then the next one. These subsequent orgasms may actually be more powerful or pleasurable than the first. In some women their clitoris and nipples are very sensitive after climax thus making additional stimulation very painful. There are reports of woman having too many orgasms including a story of one woman in the UK who had them throughout the day at the merest hints of a vibration. Other techniques are analogous to reports by multi-orgasmic women indicating that they must relax and "let go" to experience multiple orgasms.

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