For women, it appears, sex is a giant turn-off according to a recent brain scanning study. It shows that many areas of the brain turn off in the female orgasm – including those concerned with emotion. "At the instant of orgasm, girls don't have any emotional feelings," announces Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in Holland.

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As the ladies were excited, activity rose in one sensory part of the brain, called the primary somatosensory cortex, but slipped in the amygdala and hippocampus, areas concerned in application and tension. In one sense the findings seem to confirm what other studies already told us which is that ladies cannot enjoy sex unless they are relaxed and free from concerns and distractions. "Fear and agitation levels have to go down for orgasm. Everybody knows this but we are able to see it going down in the brain," he explains. From an evolutionary perspective it may be the brain switches off the feelings during sex because at such times the opportunity to produce offspring becomes more vital than the survival risk to the individual.

Holstege points towards the unusual behaviour seen in some animals in the breeding season such as n March hares. In March Hares the urge to mate appears to override the common fear of predators. But Holstege can't say why there's such extraordinary deactivation in so many areas of the brain during orgasm.

Only one tiny part of the brain, in the cerebellum, was more active during female orgasm. The cerebellum is usually related to coordinating movement, though there is also some proof that it helps control emotions. "We have no idea what activation of the cerebellum corresponds to," Holstege admits. His study also made public clear differences when ladies were faking an orgasm. Part of the brain involved controlling conscious movement lit up, and there was not one of the acute deactivation. Next the team hope to take a look at what happens to the brain in the minutes after orgasm as well as in patients with sexual problems. The team has done an analogous study concerning eleven men which showed a lot less deactivation during orgasm than in females. However, Holstege claims the results are potentially untrustworthy and have to be repeated.

The issue is that PET scanners measure activity over 2 mins and in men it's all over in some seconds when the orgasm is concerned. There has to be a better way to study and analyse the responses within the mal brain in the short time h is in the “Orgasmic state”.

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Well I know I as a woman I have faked an orgasm. I reckon at some point in our lives most of us ladies have faked an orgasm. It is now believed that it is possible as many as one in three women is unable to achieve orgasm with their partner.

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I had an email from a lovely lady Rachael who was looking for some advice on how she could attain consistent orgasms from sexual experiences with her husband. She wrote:-

“When it comes to orgasms I have to use all my acting skills. I don’t try to be a porno star and overplay my hand. All I do is clench my muscles, hold my breath and quiver, then relax and smile”.

Yeh me too! I know exactly where Rachael is coming from and I expect that most of my readers have been in this position too. Rachael charade is not unusual. I have reported on this website surveys have shown that anywhere between 48 and 72 percent of women has faked orgasms. Rachael went on to explain in her email that in every other area of her relationship she was completely transparent with her husband.

I always advocate conversation between partners is paramount to a fulfilling sexual relationship and that Rachael in her lets say “performances” has in fact been lying to her husband. Yes it maybe shocking but it is true to say to perform in this way is to be deceitful to your husband or partner.

Now it is I guess OK to fake every now and again. Call them small white lies but if you are consistently faking an orgasm then I believe there is a problem. To fake when maybe you’re tired or just want to end sex and don’t want to let the partner down doesn’t harm the relationship.

The problem is habitual faking. I know when a women fakes an orgasm she is doing it for some one else. The thing is if you turn that on its head and think about it; then as a woman you are not faking an orgasm to make yourself happy. If you are faking all you are doing is smoothing over the cracks in your sexual life. In effect by faking you are just caressing the ego of a lover into thinking they are satisfying you sexually.

The reasoning behind why we fake it maybe due to our narrow view of sexuality and that the right way to have sex must end with a screaming orgasm. It is unsurprising that we’d rather fake than strive within restrictive parameters towards such an uncertain end.

It is habitual faking that is counter productive. It is when women who are faking all the time or very frequently because they feel under pressure to please a partner or because they themselves are reaching orgasm rarely or not at all. This situation is then made even worse because these women don’t know how to say what they want to improve things sexually.

Why Do Women Fake Orgasms?

I believe women who habitually fake are probably suffering from low sexual self-esteem and have an eroded sense of entitlement to sexual gratification. These women don’t believe they can ask their partner to help them orgasm because they would feel greedy or selfish. This is true of many women; a woman could be a strident feminist in her professional life but a lot less confident sexually. They fake and lie because they don’t feel they can ask for what they want.

It is also true to say that men may fake too. Yes I have many men also visit my website and even though a man may ejaculate he may not orgasm. Ejaculation is the functional part of sex; the propulsion of seminal fluid. The orgasm is the climactic feeling in sex.

It doesn’t matter on the gender habitual faking as opposed to occasional faking is corrosive to emotional intimacy. If the faking continues it may lead to the person who has been faking becoming resentful to their partner. They may feel bad about themselves which in turn will put strain or bring conflict to the relationship.

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There are several types of orgasm for ladies. Most females can reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris with the fingers, oral sex or a sex toy such as a the dildo or vibrator.

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The first type of orgasm to explain is the one most people associate with women the vaginal orgasm. The easiest way most women achieve a vaginal orgasm is through G-Spot stimulation. The G-spot is a spongy mass of tissue that swells (engorges with blood) when excited. It's still hard to find for many women. It is however discovered two inches within the vagina on the front wall. It is known that by stimulating the G-Spot for vaginal orgasms leads to a much more powerful orgasmic experience.

The second type of orgasm is the blended orgasm which is a mix of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. They are known to be powerful orgasms that can produce intense orgasms and also lead to female ejaculation.

Multiple orgasms are a series of orgasms that occur over a brief period of time and they can occur with any kind of orgasm. With multiple orgasms after the first orgasm women will have sequential climaxes. Multiple orgasms can be continuous without further stimulation or stimulation necessary for some women to continue to orgasm.

A simultaneous orgasm is when a lovers climax at the same time. This can be a fantastic experience, though doubtless not something you mean to do each time you make love, a lot of the enjoyment of the orgasm is watching your other half have one.

The brain is the largest sex organ, and due to this, some folks can reach climax without sexual stimulation. These orgasms are achieved through a woman having erotic thoughts without stimulation until reaching orgasm.

Nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams are another type prompted by the brain whilst sleeping and most associated with boys going through puberty (put in as technically another type of orgasm).

An extended orgasm is a solitary orgasm that sustains pleasurable sensations of climax over a long than usual period of time. The duration of the orgasm can be developed over time and then can last an hour or longer.

Orgasms are felt in the body, mind, emotions and spirit. The goal of gaining orgasm is to feel the greatest amount of that pleasure as possible either on your own or with a partner. They are mainly through stimulation of erotic zones but it is important to remember the mind needs to be stimulated to really make the most of your sexual encounters and therefore your eventual orgasm.

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The orgasm is the crowning of a successful and highly pleasurable session of sex. It puts a grin on the face of satisfied women and makes men walk with a swagger. The big “O” is the one of the most important little things in the universe and the fundamental end product of a wonderful sexual experience. If it wasn’t for the orgasm life would be a very dull existence.

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But orgasm isn't limited in scope to making one (or two) folks feel good for 5 or 10 minutes before falling asleep. Science has demonstrated that frequent sex and orgasms are vital to the general contentment and health of each person.

The more frequent the orgasm, the better off that person is going to be on both the physical and psychological planes. Everyday life results in

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tension for most of us. The troubles of responsibilities and relationships take their toll on the psychological balance of a person. Sex and orgasms are an opportunity for these tensions to be released as stress and anxiety are flushed from the system when you reach orgasm.

Therefore; the mind uses the orgasm to discharge the tensions out of the system and replace them with a relaxed body state and on a plus side incorporates pleasure. The most common thing to do after extricating yourself from the tender embrace is, naturally, to slip into sleep. The mixed effort of sex and relaxation brought by orgasm is the ideal replacement for any sleeping tablet.

Rather than reaching out for the bottle of tablets, you would be better off reaching out for the person lying in bed next to you or for a much-loved sex toy. It is a completely natural solution that should be heartily endorsed. What men also need understand is that a headache is a lady's way of saying "You have to try harder".

The pleasure brought by orgasm is the result of a discharge of endorphins into the brain. No headache can survive the attack of pleasure flooding the brain and the relaxing effect it has.

Naturally, sex isn't intended to replace dieting, but it appears to go some way toward helping you rein in those food longings and it does burn some calories. In truth, sex burns more calories per minute than tennis. The number of systematic studies shows that frequent orgasms are good for one's health. The Orgasm plays a critical role to obtain a successful sex life and also for the physical and psychological health of all men and women.

Apart from the undeniable fact that increased heart rate and heavy breathing keep the circulatory system in shape and make oxygen circulate through the body, sex has other benefits. A study made public in Psychosomatic Medication in 1976 showed clearly that failure to reach orgasm has a negative result on the heart health of ladies.

Healthy levels of oestrogen help keep the heart system in shape, fight cholesterol and keep the skin pliant. To conclude regular orgasmic experiences can truly lead to better health and well being be it from self pleasure or through love-making. What other excuse to you need?

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Some girls feel that one is sufficient and others find that their clitoris is too sensitive after their first orgasm and their just not interested in having any more. Girls unlike men on do not have a refractory period, after their first orgasm they are in the plateau stage and stay aroused for longer and if stimulation is continued more orgasms are likely. These appear as a sequence of climaxes that come close along without an interruption in arousal. For some women they may need some seconds to relax before stimulation can continue when having multiple orgasms but then an another orgasm usually occurs inside minutes.

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A likely situation for this to occur is if the clitoris is stimulated manually or orally till climax is reached, followed by another climax during intercourse.

Some girls might find that their clitoris is extraordinarily sensitive after their first orgasm.

If direct stimulation is too intense, try indirect stimulation on another part of the genitals. It would help to take deep breaths, rocking your pelvis in time with your breathing, while the energy builds up again in your genitals. Within a few minutes you could find that over stimulation will give way to pleasure. There are two types of multiple orgasms.

Sequential Multiples

These are a series of climaxes that come close together with an interruption in arousal. The woman might need a few seconds to relax and then stimulation can continue, with another orgasm occurring within minutes. A likely situation for this to happen is if the clitoris is stimulated manually or orally until climax is reached, followed by another climax during intercourse.

Some women might find that their clitoris is very sensitive after their first orgasm. If direct stimulation is too intense, try indirect stimulation on another part of the genitals. It might help to take deep breaths, rocking your pelvis in time with your breathing, while the energy builds up again in your genitals. Within a few minutes you could find that over stimulation will give way to pleasure.

Serial Multiples

These are orgasms that come one after the other without interruption in arousal. These are only seconds apart and may feel like on continuous orgasm with multiple peak points. This is likely to be achieved if the clitoris and G-Spot are being stimulated simultaneously.

Some women find that their second or third orgasms are more powerful than the first, and some find that their orgasms become progressively less intense.

In conclusion

Achieving multiple orgasms can be refreshing, exciting and even lead to an overall sense if well being for a long while after the event. A great way to get multiple orgasm is of course through self pleasure.

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The Guide – How To Get My First Orgasm

Hi there I got an email from a 30 year old women who had never had an orgasm and so I wrote back to her how I would apporach the situation myself.  In our email exchange she also said that she had several friends that she thought might benefit from the reply I gave her. It led me to think that there might be many other women in the same situation so decided to post the reply here.

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Dear Reader,

This is the second and final installment from self pleasure for women covering all aspects of the female orgasm.

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The Physical Response in Woman on Achieving Orgasm

The female orgasm normally last much longer than that of a man. It is preceded by the erection of the clitoris and the moistening of the vagina. In is not uncommon for the woman to experience a sexual flush which is a reddening of the skin over much of the body and can be explained due to the increase of blood flow in the body.

When a woman nears orgasm the clitoral galns moves inwards under the clitoral hood and the inner lips become darker. Closer to the orgasm a woman will experience a tightening and narrowing of the vagina with the overall vagina lengthening and dilating becoming congested with engorged soft tissue. The uterus then experiences muscular contractions. In woman the feeling a total orgasm happens when her uterus, vagina, anus and pelvic muscles undergo a series of rhythmic contractions. In most women the whole overall experience is extremely pleasurable. Once the orgasm has finished the clitoris re-emerges from under the hood and returns to normal size usually within ten minutes.

Orgasm and Health

Although I couldn’t find any health studies concerning woman and orgasm research on men and the orgasm and sex as a whole showed that the physical activity requires major exertion of many bodily functions. In 1997 a study by The British Medical Journal in 918 men between the ages of 45-59 then followed up 10 years later showed that men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any causes that those having at least two orgasms a week. In 2001 a follow up that was specifically focused on cardiovascular health found that having sex three times or more a week led to a 50% reduction in the chances of heart attack or stoke.

Achieving Orgasm

One of the main ways to achieve orgasm is by direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. This can be achieved a number of ways such as through sexual intercourse, manual masturbation, oral sex, non penetrative sex, a sensual vibrator or an erotic electro-stimulation. An orgasm can also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples or other erogenous zones. In the absence of physical stimulation orgasm can be accomplished from physiological arousal alone.

The G-Spot is important for woman to realize an orgasm this is an internal gland called the Skene’s gland in woman.

Vaginal Orgasm

The female body can attain orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris and also from stimulation of the G-Spot. Its full name is the Grafenberg spot and is a small area behind the female pubic bone surrounding the urethra and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina. There are certain scientists that believe only certain woman actually have a G-spot. The G-spot orgasm is sometimes referred to as “vaginal” because it results from stimulation inside the vagina, including during sexual intercourse. However please note only stimulation of the G-Spot and other inner vaginal stimulation results in a “vaginal orgasm”.

There is great debate as two whether there is a two orgasm theory that there is a vaginl orgasm and a clitoral orgasm. Many believe that the two orgasm theory is a perception put forward by men and is heavily criticised by feminist such as Ellen Ross.

Freud was the first person to put forward the concept of a purely vaginal orgasm he argued without any evidence that a clitoral orgasm was an adolescent phenomnan and upon reaching puberty the proper response of a mature woman changes to a vaginal orgasm. This theory held parlance for a long time because many women felt inadequate when they could not achieve orgasm via vaginal intercourse that involved little or no clitoral stimulation.

The belief that most people now deem right now we have a greater understanding of the female genitalia and sexual organs is that the clitoris is much larger than we ever understood before is the clitoris actually extends inside and around the body of the vagina and complicates if not invalidates the vaginal vs. clitoral orgasm. Recent anatomical research shows that there are nerves connecting intravaginal tissues and the clitoris. This link between the clitoris and the vagina is evidence that the clitoris is the “seat” of the female orgasm and is far more widespread that the visible part most people associate with the clit. It may explain why some women can realize orgasm by sexual intercourse alone as the may have more extensive clitoral tissue and nerves than other women making an orgasm from penetrative sex possible.

Anal Stimulation

The anal orgasm is often talked about but often misunderstood it can be brought on by anal stimulation such as from anal sex, an inserted finger or sex toy. Anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or “vaginal” orgasm, though for many the distinction is less clear.

In both sexes pleasure can be gained from the nerve endings around the anus and the anus itself. It is known that anal-oral contact can still be pleasurable without stimulation of the clit.

Breast and Nipple Stimulation

It is pretty self explanatory a breast orgasm describes a female orgasm that is triggered by stimulation of the breast. It is not achievable by all women when their breast are stimulated but anecdotal evidence suggest that stimulation of the breast area during sexual intercourse and foreplay, or just simply having their breast fondled creates a more intense orgasm. One study claimed that 29% of woman had at one point or other had experienced a breast orgasm. The way it is explained is that stimulation of the nipples produces the hormone oxytocin which is produced in the body during sexual excitement in all other sexual circumstances.

Multiple Orgasms

Women sometimes don’t have or have a very small period of time between when they first experience an orgasm and then the next one. These subsequent orgasms may actually be more powerful or pleasurable than the first. In some women their clitoris and nipples are very sensitive after climax thus making additional stimulation very painful. There are reports of woman having too many orgasms including a story of one woman in the UK who had them throughout the day at the merest hints of a vibration. Other techniques are analogous to reports by multi-orgasmic women indicating that they must relax and "let go" to experience multiple orgasms.

In Conclusion

The female orgasm can be achieved in several different ways depending on which of the different erogenous zones is stimulated. In many instances it may take time and patience but they can be rewarded with multiple and extremely pleasurable orgasms.

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Well how could I at self pleasure for women have been so stupid? Here I am talking about self pleasure and the female body and related self pleasure subjects and I have failed to write about the orgasm. I am not sure how I managed to miss it. This websites dedicated to self pleasure for women and well why do we all self love? Ultimately it is to reach orgasm.

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Yes, I have written here about the overall benefits of self pleasure and the exploration of your own body. Now I need to add the final part of the whole endeavour and that is to explain the whole concept of the orgasm. It is a large subject to cover so I am going to write about the subject of he orgasm in a series of post over the coming weeks. This will hopefully stop me overloading you all with too much information and make the orgasm easier to understand. Let start at the beginning shall we.

What is an Orgasm?

An orgasm (sexual climax) is the conclusion of the plateau phase in the bodies’ response to sexual stimulus and maybe experienced by both males and females. An orgasm is characterised by intense physical pleasure controlled by the involuntary or automatic nervous system. The orgasm often leads to involuntary actions such as muscular spasms in other parts of the body, a general euphoric sensation, and as all girls know may need lead to the need to shout out.

Definitions of orgasm

Three is heated debate as to what types of sexual sensation can accurately be termed as “orgasm”, including for example of the orgasm caused by G-spot stimulation alone and the manifestation of extended or continuous orgasms lasting several minutes or even more than an hour. The debate central point is the clinical definition of the orgasm.

The way it is usually described in the clinical context is by the muscular contractions involved.

This is open to speculation as within people their perceptions of achieving orgasm are different and do not necessarily involve the involuntary contractions characteristics of orgasm. In would be fair to say though that in both sexes the feeling of climaxing is enormously enjoyable and often felt throughout the whole body, causing a mental state that many describe as transcendental (moving, awe-inspiring).

Evolutionary functions of orgasms

This too is open to speculation but I would like to believe the writings of Desmond Morris who in 1967 in his book The Naked Ape an admired science book put forward the theory that the female orgasm developed to encourage physical intimacy with a male partner and help reinforce the pair bond.. Morris goes much further and suggests that the difficulty a woman has achieving an orgasm has Darwinian undertones as it leads to females selecting males who bear the qualities such as patience, care, imagination, intelligence rather than negative traits such as aggression, which are present in other primates.

The difference between the two sexes was accentuated over time because if a male had to work hard to achieve an orgasm like a female then self-interest in achieving an orgasm for himself would be enough for him to work hard in sexual situations rather than show other positive traits.

There are other theories that the orgasm developed in the female to help increase fertility as it has been shown that the vagina reduces in size by 30% during orgasm so therefore clenching the penis more thus causing more sensation in the male and could lead to a faster and more volumous ejaculation.

In 1997 Learning Channel documentary on sex placed fibre optic cables inside the vagina of a woman and showed during an orgasm that a woman pelvic muscle contracts and that her cervix dipped into a pool of semen in the vagina making conception more likely.

It can be argued that the fact that a woman can achieve an orgasm more easily during ovulation that the orgasm is tied to fertility.

The other theory suggested by biologists is that the orgasm simply developed to motivate humans to have sex which results in the increased chance of reproduction as males typically reach orgasm faster than females, it potentially encourages a females desire to engage in intercourse more frequently there again increasing the likelihood.

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