How To Get My First Orgasm
Hi there I got an email from a 30 year old women who had never had an orgasm and so I wrote back to her how I would approach the situation myself.
In our email exchange she also said that she had several friends that she thought might benefit from the reply I gave her.
It led me to think that there might be many other women in the same situation so decided to post the reply here.
This is to help women who want to know “how can I give myself an orgasm”.
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I hope this reply is useful and remember that if you have any other questions then please feel free contact me any time.
If you are always approaching sexual experiences and believing that you have to orgasm for it to be successful then you are putting too much emphasis on that rather it just being first and foremost FUN.
To achieve and enjoy and orgasm you have to be able to let your body relax. To attain your first orgasm you need to be in the right frame of mind.
I would suggest that you should wait until you have had a really good day and you are in a fantastic mood.
Then you have to say “I am going to treat myself AND I am going to give myself an orgasm“.
I would suggest the following conditions may help you obtain that first orgasm:
- Plenty of time (give yourself at least an hour)
- Make sure that you have privacy (if you have kids leave them with a neighbor)
- Prepare a relaxed environment (use candles even mood music or have a glass of wine).
How To Approach Self Pleasure
Yes, you should approach self pleasure as a treat to yourself. You have had a good day and now you are going to give yourself some serious pleasure. You are going to get this pleasure from your own body.
The next step is too now approach self-pleasure in the right frame of mind. You have to be comfortable in your own skin.
I suggest you look at yourself in a mirror naked (yes naked!). You might feel a little uncomfortable at first but remember you’ve had a good day and you are in a great mood.
Look yourself in the eye and say really meaning it “I am a beautiful person with a beautiful body.
I deserve pleasure and I am going to give myself pleasure.” Repeat it several times until you feel empowered and then you can go onto the actual beginning of self-pleasure.
I would though suggest that you focus on the clitoris to achieve your first orgasm and would recommend that you read my article about the clitoris which goes into several techniques that deal with clitoral stimulation just click here for the article.
The reason I suggest the clitoris first is that it is the most sensitive part of the female genitalia and it is now believed that it is much larger that many previously thought and that it is connected to all parts of the female genitalia.
It will make having your first orgasm much easier if you stimulate your clit rather than vaginal penetration for example.
It maybe too sensitive for you to directly touch your clitoris but there are several techniques that deal with that issue in the article I suggested.
Overall I would have to say be in a good mood, be relaxed, make sure you have plenty of time and importantly you are no going to be disturbed.
Every women has a beautiful body and we should all be able to gain pleasure from it be it by ourselves or with a partner.
I hope these words have helped you and if you have any more questions then please contact me any time.
Remember if you have any more questions then please contact me.