A Guide On How To Approach Female Masturbation As Virgin

I got a email from a nice young lady this week who wrote "I am 18 and still a virgin, what kind of things would you say are the best ways to masturbate when you are a virgin?". I thought alot about this and came and tried to come up with a ideal answer. I thought that there must be many other young ladies who are asking the same question so decided to put my answer here for other youing ladies to read.

Jessica,

Thank you so much for your email. I have spent a lot of time mulling over your problem trying to come up with an ideal answer. I take all emails seriously.

Jessica you are at the start of your sexual journey that will hopefully be a wonderful and fulfilling experience that will bring you happiness and joy. All I can say that there isn’t any hard or fast rules of how to approach masturbation and your sexual being.

You are in a great position as you are seriously considering how best to masturbate although you are inexperienced. Well I would say that anything goes. Masturbation is all about enjoyment but also experimentation.

I would suggest that you use your alone time to really explore your body and all your erogenous zones from your nipples to the little known zone that is the AFE zones. Listen to what your body tells you and if you find something you really like then explore it further. I myself often find my clitoris quite sensitive and don’t like direct touch on my clit at first. I will play around the sides of my clit to start with and then when I am excited it can sometimes be OK to then directly stimulate my clitoris.

The only thing I would say is as a virgin if you were considering a dildo or vibrator use a smaller sex toy to start with. The best way to find the ideal size toy would be to get a candle and put a condom on it and then use it in your vagina to find the length that best suits you. A jelly dildo is ideal for a beginner and plus they are generally inexpensive.

Jessica don’t be afraid to really explore your body. The way to approach self pleasure is to do so when you are comfortable. That means when you are alone and there is no chance of being disturbed so when the house if empty. Then get as comfortable as possible using your favourite pillows and cushions. Maybe have a sheet on the floor and lay back with legs drawn up and knees allowed to flop apart. Rest the palm of your hand on your pubic mound and fingers resting on your open vulva. Move your hand to stimulate clitoris by side-to-side, up and down, circular or gentle pinching movements and then just start exploring from there.

Want a real orgasm? Then the perfect toy will help simply……

Jessica it takes time and just let things happen naturally and soon you will gain more confidence and know what your body likes and what makes your climax with the most pleasure.

I have been masturbating for over 16 years and still I am sometimes amazed at what I can achieve with a little exploration and a good toy (I am not saying that you have to get a toy but as an experienced women I like to have different toys for when I get some alone time).

I have written several articles on my site that I would recommend reading and will list then below:-

Self Pleasure Situations

The Clitoris

The G-Spot

Nipple Play

The Orgasm

Jessica I hope you find this email useful and please, please feel free to contact me (contact form below this post)  anytime with any questions or just to talk about anything in general. I will try and help and get back to you as promptly as I can.

Thanks

Holly

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