Dr. Alfred Kinsey was a noted researcher in sexual behaviour and had several books published including two books “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male” and “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Female”.

In his studies Kinsey found that more men than women reported fantasizing about sex, though women were as afar from being asexual in mind as in deed. Kinsey was especially interested in fantasy during masturbation. He found that 89% of men who masturbated fantasized but only 64% of women did, and men did so much more regularly.

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I believe the figure would be much higher for women today just from my own experiences and through conversations with readers of my website. The figure will also be higher now because sexual fantasizing is considered normal and appropriate for both sexes. Plus anyone who knows me will attest that I truly believe that fantasizing is key to a healthily lifestyle and maximising the pleasure anyone can get from their own body.

To get further in to the fantasy topic it is interesting to note that although men still fantasize more during masturbation than women; there is evidence that women fantasize as much or even more than men during intercourse (I know I have had too when some uninspired man thinks he is making “sweet love” to me). I think the reason women probably fantasize more is because for most women the physical stimulation of intercourse isn’t enough t bring her to orgasm.

In today’s more sexual enlightened world writers, books and the media now even encourage women to use fantasy to enhance their sexual experiences. Many people (including some psychotherapists) presumed that women who fantasized during sex were neurotic, bored, unhappy or frustrated. The fact is E. Barbara Hariton during her studies in 1973 found no instance of emotional instability in these women. Instead they tended to be creative, nonconformist, sexually active and satisfied.

In their fantasies people of both sexes tend to imagine forbidden activities or partners but certain themes are more characteristic of one sex than of the other. Men are some what likelier than women to think about group sex, sex with a stranger, forcing women to have sex or overcoming a woman’s initial resistance. Women are somewhat likelier than men to think about romantic situations or being overpowered. Fantasies involving force by the way usually don’t include physical violence or psychological degradation and therefore should not be considered rape fantasies.

For both men and women fantasies are a way of mentally role-playing certain cultural erotic roles or of experiencing a side of oneself that they cannot or would not want to be expressed in real life. Undeniably most fantasies have little to do with reality. For example Hariton found that those women who fantasised about being dominated sexually are most often in their real lives professionally successful people.

In conclusion sexual fantasies are normal among the majority of both men and women in self pleasure and intercourse situations. It is fun and can en-heighten any sexual situation. I even sometimes find it fun and great foreplay to get a partner to talk to me about their sexual fantasises and who knows that discussion could lead to some exciting new sexual experiences that you never ever dreamed of.

As far as I am concerned I conclude –

“Just let you mind wander and then your hands”

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The three main aspects of buying a dildo are shape, material and colour. A woman wants something that looks and feels good. Most dildos are made of rubber. Even with rubber there are different types with jelly rubber being quite popular and coming in interesting colours.

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Hard plastic dildos are inflexible and many women just don’t like the feel of them. If women use these then it is often only for short periods of time. I would suggest that hard plastic is really only for more experienced dildo users.

When buying a dildo really think about what you want from them and it is better to start a little smaller rather that go for one too big. Dildos aren’t cheap and they are certainly not returnable.

If you are new to sex toys then buying an inexpensive jelly rubber dildo maybe he ideal starting point; this way you can find out what shape and size suits you for a small outlay. Then when you know what makes you happy then treat yourself to a silicone dildo or something more expensive but more life like.

Silicone dildos are at the expensive end of the market but are of the highest quality available and I would highly recommend them if you budget can stretch that far. The reasons that silicone is so highly thought of is due to:

• Silicone in non-porous and can be boiled in water (great for hygiene purposes)

• Silicone transmits vibrations well and holds temperature (is feels great when you are in the flow of things)

• Silicone is available in a wide range of colours, shapes and sizes (Girls the dildo has to look and feel good)

• Silicone is strong, durable and clean

Silicone is the ideal choice if you are concerned about allergies or reacting to toys in a different way. Technology has moved on now and you can also get dildos that feel very realistic (like cyberskin dildos but cleaner and safer).

Silicone dildos usually start at around $20 (£10) to about $100 (£50), although they can be a lot more expensive. This is expensive for a dildo but you are paying for a superior product.

Here is a list of the different dildos on the market as I write this post:-

• Glass, Metal, Plastic/Acrylic Dildo
• Jelly Rubber Dildo
• Cyberskin Dildo
• Harness dildo

There are more types to follow! Remember the Silicone Dildo too!

Many women love to have a toy to self-pleasure go on treat yourself

Welcome to self pleasure for women and sorry to my older readers that I haven’t worked on self pleasure for women for a while. I hope to post a lot about self pleasure in the coming months and today will be concentrating on breast and nipple play.

Breasts what wonderful creations they are. Breast and nipple play by women can be a great way to change the self-pleasure routine. Breasts are perfectly designed to bring pleasure to women and it just takes a bit of practice to maximise the enjoyment and lead to some great orgasms.

I have put together the article below after receiving email requests from women who wanted get the most from her breasts and nipples through nipple play.

It Does't Matter About Nipple Or Breast Size

Remember girls it doesn’t matter what shape, size colour your breasts are but take into account that every breast is different and some women like a lot of stimulation whilst others may get aroused with the slightest of touches.

It is just key to remember to get the most from any breast session to by symmetrical by either playing with both breasts at one time or giving equal time to both.

Here We Go Girls – Our Nipple Play Guide

1. Begin slowly working on your own breasts and be very gentle. You can start or example brushing the palms of your hands over the whole of the breast in a soft circular motion. It is a great way to learn the contours of your breast and a good time to listen to your body and just enjoy the sensations you are feeling.

If you want to kick up the play a notch then why not add massage oil which will keep everything feeling nice and smooth and be gently warming on the breast.

2. Once you are starting to feel good then work yourself into a rhythm by repeating moves several times and being consistent. If you are working in a clockwise motion, do that on both breasts.

Or try this move: place your palm over the entire breast (with the nipple in the centre of your palm). Fan out your fingers as if they're the spokes of a wheel.Now bring them in toward the nipple and finish off with a slight pinch. Then repeat.

3. Remember to listen to you body at all times. Remembering to pay attention to what feels good and experiment a little and repeating what feels good to you. This can for some women be where possible sucking her won breasts comes into play.

It may sound strange but if you are getting hot then why not go with the flow.

• Begin with small licks or even blowing on and around your breasts working towards the nipple itself.
• Gradually transition from licking to sucking and even up to biting if you want.
• Then play around with what feels good from hot breath, licking, sucking and just caressing.

Nipple Play Is All About Experimentation

Breast play like all self-pleasure is all about the individual you can even experiment with temperature from hot massage oil to the coldness of ice-cubes. It is all up to how far you can let your imagination run.

This article is strictly about nipple play but the same rules apply as I have spoken about other self pleasure techniques about making sure you give yourself plenty of time and using your imagination to fanaticize whilst practising self-love.

How about this wonderful nipple play idea, and I have tried it myself. It was fairly delightful, although I require something a little more intense. Here is what I was worked for me:-

Remove your upper body clothing and nothing more so you will not distract yourself with lower temptations! This is all about the nipples ladies!

Next gently run your finger tips over your breasts, avoiding the nipple areas, for five minutes.

You may want to grab hold of your nipples and twist! But please hold back and wait!

After the five minutes, your breasts should start to tingle and your nipples become very erect. Then you are allowed to touch them, but only with gentle strokes of motion.

Now is when your vagina will actually start to crave some attention, but its urges have to be suppressed with nipple pinching urges! Keep playing with your nipples for ten minutes.

Finally! Some pain! For three minutes squeeze and twist your nipples repeatedly, while occasionally pinching the nipples and rest of the breasts.

Your nipples will of course enjoy the attention more, so very little of the three will probably be spent on the rest of the breast.

Now the final step… my dear readers! Clips on the nipples for five minutes! This can be binder clips or cloth pins. What ever you choose and it should be a painfully delicious sensation!

Nipple Play – It Can Be Great Fun

The overall affect it a wonderful build up of sensations and you will really be hot and horny and have great fun.  Just concentrating on the breasts and nipples and suppressing the urge to move own below can be a rewarding and fun filled experience and one that I can personally recommend. In fact I was only doing the above just yesterday after being reminded of the fun of breast play from the reader who asked for this request.

Well ladies why not give those breast a little attention and even pass this information onto your partners who can give your wonderful breasts the attention they truly deserve. They can really lead some wondeful orgasms.

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