For women, it appears, sex is a giant turn-off according to a recent brain scanning study. It shows that many areas of the brain turn off in the female orgasm – including those concerned with emotion. "At the instant of orgasm, girls don't have any emotional feelings," announces Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in Holland.

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As the ladies were excited, activity rose in one sensory part of the brain, called the primary somatosensory cortex, but slipped in the amygdala and hippocampus, areas concerned in application and tension. In one sense the findings seem to confirm what other studies already told us which is that ladies cannot enjoy sex unless they are relaxed and free from concerns and distractions. "Fear and agitation levels have to go down for orgasm. Everybody knows this but we are able to see it going down in the brain," he explains. From an evolutionary perspective it may be the brain switches off the feelings during sex because at such times the opportunity to produce offspring becomes more vital than the survival risk to the individual.

Holstege points towards the unusual behaviour seen in some animals in the breeding season such as n March hares. In March Hares the urge to mate appears to override the common fear of predators. But Holstege can't say why there's such extraordinary deactivation in so many areas of the brain during orgasm.

Only one tiny part of the brain, in the cerebellum, was more active during female orgasm. The cerebellum is usually related to coordinating movement, though there is also some proof that it helps control emotions. "We have no idea what activation of the cerebellum corresponds to," Holstege admits. His study also made public clear differences when ladies were faking an orgasm. Part of the brain involved controlling conscious movement lit up, and there was not one of the acute deactivation. Next the team hope to take a look at what happens to the brain in the minutes after orgasm as well as in patients with sexual problems. The team has done an analogous study concerning eleven men which showed a lot less deactivation during orgasm than in females. However, Holstege claims the results are potentially untrustworthy and have to be repeated.

The issue is that PET scanners measure activity over 2 mins and in men it's all over in some seconds when the orgasm is concerned. There has to be a better way to study and analyse the responses within the mal brain in the short time h is in the “Orgasmic state”.

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Well I know I as a woman I have faked an orgasm. I reckon at some point in our lives most of us ladies have faked an orgasm. It is now believed that it is possible as many as one in three women is unable to achieve orgasm with their partner.

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I had an email from a lovely lady Rachael who was looking for some advice on how she could attain consistent orgasms from sexual experiences with her husband. She wrote:-

“When it comes to orgasms I have to use all my acting skills. I don’t try to be a porno star and overplay my hand. All I do is clench my muscles, hold my breath and quiver, then relax and smile”.

Yeh me too! I know exactly where Rachael is coming from and I expect that most of my readers have been in this position too. Rachael charade is not unusual. I have reported on this website surveys have shown that anywhere between 48 and 72 percent of women has faked orgasms. Rachael went on to explain in her email that in every other area of her relationship she was completely transparent with her husband.

I always advocate conversation between partners is paramount to a fulfilling sexual relationship and that Rachael in her lets say “performances” has in fact been lying to her husband. Yes it maybe shocking but it is true to say to perform in this way is to be deceitful to your husband or partner.

Now it is I guess OK to fake every now and again. Call them small white lies but if you are consistently faking an orgasm then I believe there is a problem. To fake when maybe you’re tired or just want to end sex and don’t want to let the partner down doesn’t harm the relationship.

The problem is habitual faking. I know when a women fakes an orgasm she is doing it for some one else. The thing is if you turn that on its head and think about it; then as a woman you are not faking an orgasm to make yourself happy. If you are faking all you are doing is smoothing over the cracks in your sexual life. In effect by faking you are just caressing the ego of a lover into thinking they are satisfying you sexually.

The reasoning behind why we fake it maybe due to our narrow view of sexuality and that the right way to have sex must end with a screaming orgasm. It is unsurprising that we’d rather fake than strive within restrictive parameters towards such an uncertain end.

It is habitual faking that is counter productive. It is when women who are faking all the time or very frequently because they feel under pressure to please a partner or because they themselves are reaching orgasm rarely or not at all. This situation is then made even worse because these women don’t know how to say what they want to improve things sexually.

Why Do Women Fake Orgasms?

I believe women who habitually fake are probably suffering from low sexual self-esteem and have an eroded sense of entitlement to sexual gratification. These women don’t believe they can ask their partner to help them orgasm because they would feel greedy or selfish. This is true of many women; a woman could be a strident feminist in her professional life but a lot less confident sexually. They fake and lie because they don’t feel they can ask for what they want.

It is also true to say that men may fake too. Yes I have many men also visit my website and even though a man may ejaculate he may not orgasm. Ejaculation is the functional part of sex; the propulsion of seminal fluid. The orgasm is the climactic feeling in sex.

It doesn’t matter on the gender habitual faking as opposed to occasional faking is corrosive to emotional intimacy. If the faking continues it may lead to the person who has been faking becoming resentful to their partner. They may feel bad about themselves which in turn will put strain or bring conflict to the relationship.

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There are several types of orgasm for ladies. Most females can reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris with the fingers, oral sex or a sex toy such as a the dildo or vibrator.

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The first type of orgasm to explain is the one most people associate with women the vaginal orgasm. The easiest way most women achieve a vaginal orgasm is through G-Spot stimulation. The G-spot is a spongy mass of tissue that swells (engorges with blood) when excited. It's still hard to find for many women. It is however discovered two inches within the vagina on the front wall. It is known that by stimulating the G-Spot for vaginal orgasms leads to a much more powerful orgasmic experience.

The second type of orgasm is the blended orgasm which is a mix of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. They are known to be powerful orgasms that can produce intense orgasms and also lead to female ejaculation.

Multiple orgasms are a series of orgasms that occur over a brief period of time and they can occur with any kind of orgasm. With multiple orgasms after the first orgasm women will have sequential climaxes. Multiple orgasms can be continuous without further stimulation or stimulation necessary for some women to continue to orgasm.

A simultaneous orgasm is when a lovers climax at the same time. This can be a fantastic experience, though doubtless not something you mean to do each time you make love, a lot of the enjoyment of the orgasm is watching your other half have one.

The brain is the largest sex organ, and due to this, some folks can reach climax without sexual stimulation. These orgasms are achieved through a woman having erotic thoughts without stimulation until reaching orgasm.

Nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams are another type prompted by the brain whilst sleeping and most associated with boys going through puberty (put in as technically another type of orgasm).

An extended orgasm is a solitary orgasm that sustains pleasurable sensations of climax over a long than usual period of time. The duration of the orgasm can be developed over time and then can last an hour or longer.

Orgasms are felt in the body, mind, emotions and spirit. The goal of gaining orgasm is to feel the greatest amount of that pleasure as possible either on your own or with a partner. They are mainly through stimulation of erotic zones but it is important to remember the mind needs to be stimulated to really make the most of your sexual encounters and therefore your eventual orgasm.

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The orgasm is the crowning of a successful and highly pleasurable session of sex. It puts a grin on the face of satisfied women and makes men walk with a swagger. The big “O” is the one of the most important little things in the universe and the fundamental end product of a wonderful sexual experience. If it wasn’t for the orgasm life would be a very dull existence.

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But orgasm isn't limited in scope to making one (or two) folks feel good for 5 or 10 minutes before falling asleep. Science has demonstrated that frequent sex and orgasms are vital to the general contentment and health of each person.

The more frequent the orgasm, the better off that person is going to be on both the physical and psychological planes. Everyday life results in

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tension for most of us. The troubles of responsibilities and relationships take their toll on the psychological balance of a person. Sex and orgasms are an opportunity for these tensions to be released as stress and anxiety are flushed from the system when you reach orgasm.

Therefore; the mind uses the orgasm to discharge the tensions out of the system and replace them with a relaxed body state and on a plus side incorporates pleasure. The most common thing to do after extricating yourself from the tender embrace is, naturally, to slip into sleep. The mixed effort of sex and relaxation brought by orgasm is the ideal replacement for any sleeping tablet.

Rather than reaching out for the bottle of tablets, you would be better off reaching out for the person lying in bed next to you or for a much-loved sex toy. It is a completely natural solution that should be heartily endorsed. What men also need understand is that a headache is a lady's way of saying "You have to try harder".

The pleasure brought by orgasm is the result of a discharge of endorphins into the brain. No headache can survive the attack of pleasure flooding the brain and the relaxing effect it has.

Naturally, sex isn't intended to replace dieting, but it appears to go some way toward helping you rein in those food longings and it does burn some calories. In truth, sex burns more calories per minute than tennis. The number of systematic studies shows that frequent orgasms are good for one's health. The Orgasm plays a critical role to obtain a successful sex life and also for the physical and psychological health of all men and women.

Apart from the undeniable fact that increased heart rate and heavy breathing keep the circulatory system in shape and make oxygen circulate through the body, sex has other benefits. A study made public in Psychosomatic Medication in 1976 showed clearly that failure to reach orgasm has a negative result on the heart health of ladies.

Healthy levels of oestrogen help keep the heart system in shape, fight cholesterol and keep the skin pliant. To conclude regular orgasmic experiences can truly lead to better health and well being be it from self pleasure or through love-making. What other excuse to you need?

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Breast self-massage helps prevent cancer as well as detect it. Breast self-massage is a way to be intimate with your breasts. Breast self-massage is a piece of women's wisdom. Many of the women I've talked with say they don't do breast self-exams, though most think they ought to. Many women don’t want to look for or heaven forbid, find cancer.

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We've been trained to avoid danger, and looking for cancer sounds like looking for trouble. Our bodies are influenced by what we think, so how can it be safe to spend time every month doing a breast self-exam, worrying if we're about to find a lump? But we feel guilty when we don't.

And what are we supposed to feel when we touch our breasts anyway? They feel full of lumps. Most of us aren't sure how to touch or examine our breasts or what we'd do if we did feel something truly suspicious.

Breast self-massage offers a way to let go of this tension and also to get in touch with yourself. A soothing, nurturing self-massage is a pleasurable and relaxing way to get to know your breasts. It avoids the worry of checking for cancer; while providing an excellent early-warning system should cancer arise. Regular, loving touching of our breasts allows us to recognize normal breast changes without fear, and gives us time to respond thoughtfully to abnormal changes. Breast self-massage is also a quiet, focused time that allows the Wise Healer Within to alert us to any changes that require our attention. Infused (not essential) herbal oils are an important element of breast self-massage.

When herbs are infused into oil, active plant components are liberated and can be massaged into breast tissue – where they help reverse abnormal cellular changes such as hyperplasia, atypia, pre-cancers, and in situ cancers. It’s fast and fun to make your own infused oils or you can buy them. If this is all new to you, take a few months to learn about your breasts with self-massage before doing breast self-exam.

They complement each other: Let the pleasure of the massage infuse the exam, and let the effectiveness of the exam inform the massage.

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To keep a marriage good you have to work on it. Both of you have to be ready to keep working on the relationship. You will need lots of tender loving care to keep your relationship fresh and exciting. There is always a giving and receiving in a relationship, if both of you are willing to do that, chances are high that your marriage will survive.

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Below you find eight tips on how to make your marriage work:

1. Learn how to communicate effectively. It doesn't matter if you just got married or if it has been a long time since you two started out – this will build a strong relationship. Try to listen to your partner to be certain that you are understanding what they are telling you. Give each other your full attention when you are talking. It will help you greatly to understand them, when you are looking each other in the eyes when having a conversation. It is not enough to just listen to them. Always reveal through your behavior that you have clearly understood everything said.

2. Never assume you know how your partner feels about anything. Just because you like something don't volunteer them to do it with you. ASK! Never forget to be so thoughtful to see if they would like to do it.

3. Acknowledge when your partner does something nice. When your partner does something good, Say, I caught you! Then go ahead and tell them how much you appreciate it that they have been doing such a wonderful thing. You'll be surprised how far a little appreciation goes. Every time when you show your partner that they are making you happy, they will be doing kind things again and again to receive your recognition.

4. At least once a week do something together that you are both enjoying. Take a class together, go hiking, fishing, read poetry to each other. Look for any shared interests and keep doing them as often as possible.

5. Don't be only the partner, be the best friend. Always encourage them when they are working toward a goal they want to achieve. When necessary, provide a shoulder to cry on and be there to hold their hand when needed. Share all your dreams and reveal your goals, so you both can work together. Make sure to let them know how proud you are when the succeed in something.

6. Don't make the mistake to ignore your partner. Never be too busy with your own life that you forget the everyday niceties. Hug and kiss them daily. Don't hang out with your friends the whole weekend or watch TV. Make it a habit to spend time together with your partner each weekend, so you will have more in common to talk about and you will see that you will grow closer together.

7. It is very important that you "never go to bed angry", this might be hard sometimes, but it is vital. It will become a lot easier for your anger to come to a full boil when you let it simmer long enough. It will never be possible to solve problems by just going to bed or leaving the house to avoid them. Learn to agree to disagree if need be to keep the peace. But this is only working if you are really honest with yourself and you are sure that its ok to agree to disagree, specifically when it is a smaller problem. This helps you in not wasting time by being angry about small things.

8. There is nothing wrong with admitting that you are wrong. If you are wrong, admit it. Being proud doesn't help you achieving your goals and it will not support you to a great marriage either.

Although there will be always individual differences in a relationship, living in harmony is possible. Keep doing the above mentioned things and make sure you have worked out any problem before going to bed.

Love and cherish the other. Be loving and honest to another, this will help building a strong bondage. This is how you make your marriage work.

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Well ladies the financial crisis has been far reaching and has really started to hit a majority of my friends. Well a little tongue in cheek but at selfplasureforwomen.com we have few ideas on how we girls can help ourselves and make the current predicament a little easier to bear.

Everyone has a little less money in their pocket as prices keep rising as the oil prices fluctuate. Us girls cannot afford to go out as much as we used to which means we are at home a lot more. The problem is how can we fill some of the time we now have on our hands either if we live by ourselves or with a partner.

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Ladies the solution is at hand literality the clue is in our website name. Yes girls it is time to get more enjoyment from ourselves. Hell getting an orgasm is about the most fun we lasses can get and it is free. This can be achieved by ourselves or with a partner.

I believe this is a great time to explore your body and learn how to get the most pleasure possible from it. An ideal way to really get the most satisfaction is with the help of a good toy.

Ladies getting yourself a good vibrator can be a real investment at this time. Imagine the scenario you have a bit of time on your hands and there isn’t anything on TV and you are wondering what to do. Well it is the perfect time to bring out a toy and have some fun for yourself. A good toy could provide hours of entertainment over several years at for as little as $20.

Girls I have several different toys from nipple claps and several dildo/vibrators which I will be assure you I will be using over the coming months now I will be spending more time at home.

Here ladies are some related articles that that I think might aid you in a decision on whether a toy is the right choice for you. Girls let get going! Oh if you would like some more information or need some advice then please  contact me and I will help in anyway I can. Thanks Holly.

Why We Should All Self Pleasure – A great article that is a good guide to start with when thinking about self pleasure.

Which and How Many Women Self Pleasure – This article lets you know how many women masturbate.

How to Choose the Right Dildo – An easy to use guide to help you choose the perfect dildo for you.

How to Use A Dildo – An easy guide to start you getting off.

World’d Top Three Most Powerful Vibrators – A lot of ladies asked for this info so I went and go it for you.

Jenna’s Ultimate Rotating G-Spot Vibrator – This is my favourite toy at the moment.

Nipple and Breast Play – Learn to love other parts of your body.

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The dildo is an object that should be talked about much more openly as it can have a great many benefits to the both the individual and the couple. Love aids come in all shapes and sizes and it maybe hard to choose which one works for whoever is concerned.

Setting aside though for a moment the wealth of choice when purchasing a dildo we should explore why purchasing a sex toy is a good idea.

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A dildo can be used in many ways as it can be used to stimulate both partners in the couple through gentle use of pressure/insertion on different parts of the anatomy. Irrespective of which type of self-love is involved the act of masturbation allows an individual to explore by themselves what they like and how they like it. When a person is self pleasuring they are in a comfortable setting and often have the time to explore their own body. Using a dildo is an extension of this with a woman for example being able to learn how to get reach different types of orgasm. Through gentle exploration and with time a woman can learn all aspects of what allows her to climax with the most pleasure.

This then can be relayed to a partner who then can use that information to then make sure that the needs of the partner are met which leads to better love-making all-round with everybody happy.

Speaking of couples it is also true that the exploration doesn’t have to be done alone. Dildos can be used as part foreplay or aid sex to allow both couples to get the most from the love-making process.

A couple who slowly want to be come aroused could use the gentle vibrations of a silicone dildo that feels great and also keeps body heat to stimulate one another. On a sensitive part of the body a love aid allows the partner to very gently excite the area without applying to much pressure.

The use of a dildo in love making can take the pressure of a man to perform all the time and he can still satisfy his partner whilst both couples can have fun. Dildos are great for both self-pleasure and also as an aid to sex and should be part of any couples sex life. Yes dildos can benefit a couple’s sex life.

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The first step in understanding Hysteria is to understand where the word came from. Hysteria is derived from an ancient Greek word, 'hystera', which means uterus.

So the uterus is the center of this disease, its origins if you will. But why the uterus? The uterus has a long and unhappy history of being thought of as evil, as being the area of the woman's body that causes sickness, mental instability and craziness.

Hysteria turned out to be a great diagnosis for doctors to give their female patients. Since hysteria was caused by the uterus and everybody knew how unstable and weak women were, every illness that wasn't understood could be called Hysteria.

It all comes back to the uterus and the lack of understanding of how the female reproductive system worked. But there was a definite trend of who tended to suffer from Hysteria, this included virgins, nuns, widows and the occasional housewife. But why? What do these women have in common?

Sex, or a lack thereof. Women were considered unstable and weak and a lack of "hysterical paroxysm", or as we tend to refer to it, orgasm, could cause them to enter a crazed state.

Since masturbation was a very terrible thing to do there were doctors who would help women who suffered from Hysteria. In order to do this they would provide women with pelvic massages, manually inducing hysterical paroxysm.

But there was one problem with this method of treatment, sometimes it could take hours to achieve the desired result. And with such a long treatment time doctors were unable to treat many patients in a day, creating a lack of income. One way doctors tried to speed things along in the mid to late 1800's was through the use of water hoses, creating a water massage.

But thankfully in 1873 a new tool was created and first used in an asylum in France to treat Hysteria. This tool was called a electromechanical vibrator. This wondrous tool allowed doctors to help their patients in a matter of minutes, not hours.

As technology advanced more and more people got electricity in their houses, allowing women to treat themselves in the comfort of their own home. Sears even advertised their vibrators in their 1918 catalogue where they said their vibrators were ”Very useful and satisfactory for home service.”

And so vibrators became much more common place, women could use vibrators at home, which was not masturbating, since it was all in the name of keeping them healthy and sane.

But nowadays there is no such illness as Hysteria so women can't say their vibrators such as bullet vibrators are used for their mental health. But luckily they don't need to.

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The three main aspects of buying a dildo are shape, material and colour. A woman wants something that looks and feels good. Most dildos are made of rubber. Even with rubber there are different types with jelly rubber being quite popular and coming in interesting colours.

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Hard plastic dildos are inflexible and many women just don’t like the feel of them. If women use these then it is often only for short periods of time. I would suggest that hard plastic is really only for more experienced dildo users.

When buying a dildo really think about what you want from them and it is better to start a little smaller rather that go for one too big. Dildos aren’t cheap and they are certainly not returnable.

If you are new to sex toys then buying an inexpensive jelly rubber dildo maybe he ideal starting point; this way you can find out what shape and size suits you for a small outlay. Then when you know what makes you happy then treat yourself to a silicone dildo or something more expensive but more life like.

Silicone dildos are at the expensive end of the market but are of the highest quality available and I would highly recommend them if you budget can stretch that far. The reasons that silicone is so highly thought of is due to:

• Silicone in non-porous and can be boiled in water (great for hygiene purposes)

• Silicone transmits vibrations well and holds temperature (is feels great when you are in the flow of things)

• Silicone is available in a wide range of colours, shapes and sizes (Girls the dildo has to look and feel good)

• Silicone is strong, durable and clean

Silicone is the ideal choice if you are concerned about allergies or reacting to toys in a different way. Technology has moved on now and you can also get dildos that feel very realistic (like cyberskin dildos but cleaner and safer).

Silicone dildos usually start at around $20 (£10) to about $100 (£50), although they can be a lot more expensive. This is expensive for a dildo but you are paying for a superior product.

Here is a list of the different dildos on the market as I write this post:-

• Glass, Metal, Plastic/Acrylic Dildo
• Jelly Rubber Dildo
• Cyberskin Dildo
• Harness dildo

There are more types to follow! Remember the Silicone Dildo too!

Many women love to have a toy to self-pleasure go on treat yourself