For women, it appears, sex is a giant turn-off according to a recent brain scanning study. It shows that many areas of the brain turn off in the female orgasm – including those concerned with emotion. "At the instant of orgasm, girls don't have any emotional feelings," announces Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in Holland.

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As the ladies were excited, activity rose in one sensory part of the brain, called the primary somatosensory cortex, but slipped in the amygdala and hippocampus, areas concerned in application and tension. In one sense the findings seem to confirm what other studies already told us which is that ladies cannot enjoy sex unless they are relaxed and free from concerns and distractions. "Fear and agitation levels have to go down for orgasm. Everybody knows this but we are able to see it going down in the brain," he explains. From an evolutionary perspective it may be the brain switches off the feelings during sex because at such times the opportunity to produce offspring becomes more vital than the survival risk to the individual.

Holstege points towards the unusual behaviour seen in some animals in the breeding season such as n March hares. In March Hares the urge to mate appears to override the common fear of predators. But Holstege can't say why there's such extraordinary deactivation in so many areas of the brain during orgasm.

Only one tiny part of the brain, in the cerebellum, was more active during female orgasm. The cerebellum is usually related to coordinating movement, though there is also some proof that it helps control emotions. "We have no idea what activation of the cerebellum corresponds to," Holstege admits. His study also made public clear differences when ladies were faking an orgasm. Part of the brain involved controlling conscious movement lit up, and there was not one of the acute deactivation. Next the team hope to take a look at what happens to the brain in the minutes after orgasm as well as in patients with sexual problems. The team has done an analogous study concerning eleven men which showed a lot less deactivation during orgasm than in females. However, Holstege claims the results are potentially untrustworthy and have to be repeated.

The issue is that PET scanners measure activity over 2 mins and in men it's all over in some seconds when the orgasm is concerned. There has to be a better way to study and analyse the responses within the mal brain in the short time h is in the “Orgasmic state”.

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There are several types of orgasm for ladies. Most females can reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris with the fingers, oral sex or a sex toy such as a the dildo or vibrator.

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The first type of orgasm to explain is the one most people associate with women the vaginal orgasm. The easiest way most women achieve a vaginal orgasm is through G-Spot stimulation. The G-spot is a spongy mass of tissue that swells (engorges with blood) when excited. It's still hard to find for many women. It is however discovered two inches within the vagina on the front wall. It is known that by stimulating the G-Spot for vaginal orgasms leads to a much more powerful orgasmic experience.

The second type of orgasm is the blended orgasm which is a mix of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. They are known to be powerful orgasms that can produce intense orgasms and also lead to female ejaculation.

Multiple orgasms are a series of orgasms that occur over a brief period of time and they can occur with any kind of orgasm. With multiple orgasms after the first orgasm women will have sequential climaxes. Multiple orgasms can be continuous without further stimulation or stimulation necessary for some women to continue to orgasm.

A simultaneous orgasm is when a lovers climax at the same time. This can be a fantastic experience, though doubtless not something you mean to do each time you make love, a lot of the enjoyment of the orgasm is watching your other half have one.

The brain is the largest sex organ, and due to this, some folks can reach climax without sexual stimulation. These orgasms are achieved through a woman having erotic thoughts without stimulation until reaching orgasm.

Nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams are another type prompted by the brain whilst sleeping and most associated with boys going through puberty (put in as technically another type of orgasm).

An extended orgasm is a solitary orgasm that sustains pleasurable sensations of climax over a long than usual period of time. The duration of the orgasm can be developed over time and then can last an hour or longer.

Orgasms are felt in the body, mind, emotions and spirit. The goal of gaining orgasm is to feel the greatest amount of that pleasure as possible either on your own or with a partner. They are mainly through stimulation of erotic zones but it is important to remember the mind needs to be stimulated to really make the most of your sexual encounters and therefore your eventual orgasm.

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Some girls feel that one is sufficient and others find that their clitoris is too sensitive after their first orgasm and their just not interested in having any more. Girls unlike men on do not have a refractory period, after their first orgasm they are in the plateau stage and stay aroused for longer and if stimulation is continued more orgasms are likely. These appear as a sequence of climaxes that come close along without an interruption in arousal. For some women they may need some seconds to relax before stimulation can continue when having multiple orgasms but then an another orgasm usually occurs inside minutes.

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A likely situation for this to occur is if the clitoris is stimulated manually or orally till climax is reached, followed by another climax during intercourse.

Some girls might find that their clitoris is extraordinarily sensitive after their first orgasm.

If direct stimulation is too intense, try indirect stimulation on another part of the genitals. It would help to take deep breaths, rocking your pelvis in time with your breathing, while the energy builds up again in your genitals. Within a few minutes you could find that over stimulation will give way to pleasure. There are two types of multiple orgasms.

Sequential Multiples

These are a series of climaxes that come close together with an interruption in arousal. The woman might need a few seconds to relax and then stimulation can continue, with another orgasm occurring within minutes. A likely situation for this to happen is if the clitoris is stimulated manually or orally until climax is reached, followed by another climax during intercourse.

Some women might find that their clitoris is very sensitive after their first orgasm. If direct stimulation is too intense, try indirect stimulation on another part of the genitals. It might help to take deep breaths, rocking your pelvis in time with your breathing, while the energy builds up again in your genitals. Within a few minutes you could find that over stimulation will give way to pleasure.

Serial Multiples

These are orgasms that come one after the other without interruption in arousal. These are only seconds apart and may feel like on continuous orgasm with multiple peak points. This is likely to be achieved if the clitoris and G-Spot are being stimulated simultaneously.

Some women find that their second or third orgasms are more powerful than the first, and some find that their orgasms become progressively less intense.

In conclusion

Achieving multiple orgasms can be refreshing, exciting and even lead to an overall sense if well being for a long while after the event. A great way to get multiple orgasm is of course through self pleasure.

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The dildo is an object that should be talked about much more openly as it can have a great many benefits to the both the individual and the couple. Love aids come in all shapes and sizes and it maybe hard to choose which one works for whoever is concerned.

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A dildo can be used in many ways as it can be used to stimulate both partners in the couple through gentle use of pressure/insertion on different parts of the anatomy. Irrespective of which type of self-love is involved the act of masturbation allows an individual to explore by themselves what they like and how they like it. When a person is self pleasuring they are in a comfortable setting and often have the time to explore their own body. Using a dildo is an extension of this with a woman for example being able to learn how to get reach different types of orgasm. Through gentle exploration and with time a woman can learn all aspects of what allows her to climax with the most pleasure.

This then can be relayed to a partner who then can use that information to then make sure that the needs of the partner are met which leads to better love-making all-round with everybody happy.

Speaking of couples it is also true that the exploration doesn’t have to be done alone. Dildos can be used as part foreplay or aid sex to allow both couples to get the most from the love-making process.

A couple who slowly want to be come aroused could use the gentle vibrations of a silicone dildo that feels great and also keeps body heat to stimulate one another. On a sensitive part of the body a love aid allows the partner to very gently excite the area without applying to much pressure.

The use of a dildo in love making can take the pressure of a man to perform all the time and he can still satisfy his partner whilst both couples can have fun. Dildos are great for both self-pleasure and also as an aid to sex and should be part of any couples sex life. Yes dildos can benefit a couple’s sex life.

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I hear the train a coming….

I was on the overnight train to Ankara and the movement of the train was turning me on because the seam from the crotch of my Levis had worked its way under the crotch of my panties, over one of my pussy lips, finally resting on the side of my clit and up to my bum hole. If I moved a certain way, the seam would tighten up along the side of my clit and bum hole, sending shivers down my spine.

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Finally, I couldn’t take the tension any longer. I needed the release, to come, but I was in a train car late at night with a few other sleepy people. I tried squirming to reposition the seam on top of my throbbing clit to make it happen on its own, but I only succeeded in hurting myself.

I was wearing a large woollen poncho, so using it like a blanket; I lay down on my left side on the seat pretending to try to sleep. Then I put my right arm down across my chest, slipped my right hand down the front of my jeans. I gently pried the seam away from the side of my suffering clit.

Next, I slightly parted my pussy lips, and very lightly laid my index finger along the top of my hard clit. It was dry from rubbing on the seam of my jeans, the clit hood had been pushed back exposing the head which was dry and sore from direct exposure to the hard seam.

Without any motion from my hand, I slipped my fingertip quickly into my wet pussy, scooped up some slick moisture and gently washed it over my suffering clit to ease the chaffing.

Out of fear from being caught, I kept my index finger resting motionless on top of the shaft of my now throbbing clit, gently cupping the tip with a wet, curled fingertip. Barely touching the hard clit head, I let the rhythm and movement from the old train move my fingertip at will. Giving control of my pleasure over to the movements of the train only heightened the excitement. I prayed for every thump, bump and sway from the rails!

Because I couldn’t work my hand without being caught, as I grew more and more aroused, all I could do was gently press the heel of my hand into my mound, while pressing down with the top joint of my index finger that rested at the top of my clit shaft. This slightly raised my entire clit up closer to my index fingertip that was gently hovering over my now throbbing clit head.

Every so often I would allow my fingertip to lightly touch my little pee-hole to add to the tension or give a brief, light, passing massage to the exposed head of my clit. The waves of pleasure came over me in electric shocks. I fought the urge to finger myself in earnest.

I was lying on my left side with my left hand now under my sweatshirt lightly flicking a nipple. I have large, thick nipples – like pink #2 pencil erasers. It always feels electric when both my nipples and clitoris are stimulated at the same time.

With a series of bumps from going over a stretch of rough tracks, I finally allowed my finger tip to rapidly but firmly massage my exposed clit head, while the length of my index finger bore down on the shaft, heel of my hand into the roots of my clit in my mound. I swear if ever I squirted it was then. I had to struggle to keep composed as I convulsed in my solitary ecstasy.

My hand was soaked as I discretely pulled it out of my jeans and tried to wipe it off on the front of my sweatshirt under the poncho. I fell asleep with my hand on my breast and woke up about half an hour later in Ankara. Had I not came when I did, I would have been in quite an agitated state upon my arrival – that’s for sure!

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The Last Two Hotspots

Ladies we have covered the clitoris and the G-Spot. There are two more “erotic zones” that have been recorded. They aren’t that widely known about but knowledge of them can add even more variety to our self-pleasure time.

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The first of these “erotic zones” is a small area of highly sensitive erectile tissue located just above and both sides of the urethral sponge. It is given the name the U-Spot.

The U-Spot

The U-spot has only been recently discovered but has been found by researchers to give an unexpected and highly erotic response when stimulated correctly. It can be for self-pleasure purposes stimulated by a lubricated finger and within love making with a tongue or penis. Please note the U-spot is not the urethral opening, but just above and either side of it.

Your fingers play a crucial role in stimulating every part of your body. When using fingers to stimulate the U-spot, simply slip the fingers in gently above the clitoris, at the opening of the vagina. Do not apply too much pressure because every part of the vagina is sensitive and should be handled with care.

The U-spot with a little experimentation can become a treasured part of the women sexual being as the pleasure from caressing it can be euphoric.

The AFE Zone

The last erotic zone we will talk about is the AFE Zone. Researchers investigating vaginal dryness with Magnetic Resonance Imaging found that when the penis head stimulated certain areas of the vagina Subjects experienced wave after wave of intense pleasure resulting in orgasm climaxes. The results were similar to but more intense than G-Spot stimulation. Sliding the fingers up the front vagina wall you find a rough oval area of ridges.

Your Are Looking For The Fornix

Sliding the fingers halfway up the posterior vaginal wall you will find a larger area which is slightly rougher than the normal vaginal wall. This is the AFE Zone. This roughness creates the friction and increases the pleasure sensations in both vagina and penis nerves.

The AFE zone is a vortex of the nerves that carry information from your whole genital to the spinal cord and brain. These nerves when stimulated send arousal signals to the part of your nervous system which enhances engorgement of appropriate areas and is responsible for sexual arousal.

This is also true for women that are not normally sexually responsive. Obviously the easiest way to locate the AFE zone is to slide the fingers halfway up the posterior vaginal wall you will find a larger area than the G-Spot, which is slightly rougher than the normal vaginal wall.

Conclusion

These two zones the U-spot and AFE zone are areas of the female genitalia that are still new to researchers and the sex toy market has yet to really make toys to cater to these pleasure areas. However, with lubricated finger(s) and a little experimentation a girl could really have some fun.

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This is very important but please remember that pleasuring yourself is not about how many times you come to an orgasm or even if you orgasm at all. It is about pleasing yourself, making you feel like no one else can.

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Self pleasure and Guilt 

“I feel guilty masturbating”, that is a recurring theme in the emails I get from my readers. The guilt of self pleasure differs within each case. I cannot begin to cover all the eventualities here but this section is an open discussion that I hope will allow women to see that self pleasure far from being something to feel guilty about should be something that is embraced and enjoyed.

Self pleasure has been condemned for a long time. Religion cast it as a sin and although we have moved on as people to become more self aware the stigma attached to self pleasure has stuck with some people still unable to truly feel comfortable about gaining pleasure from their own body.

In fact the sense of guilt is very important to in woman; they refrain from self pleasure more than men and admit to it less easily. This can be a result of repressive mind-sets of certain parents can prompt a later sense of guiltiness. The guilt from self-love can also be credited to fantasies that can go back to childhood that are connected to self pleasure. Which then makes a women feel guilty to revive them when they have a well rewarding sexual life.

Self pleasure isn’t dirty, dishonourable, or hazardous for the health. Unbelievably though self-pleasure has been considered for a long time to be a bad habit which is due to centuries of mis-education and prejudice that have turned something that should be enjoyable into something guilty. The present day translation maintains the disapproving image alive: to masturbate comes from the association of two Latin words, manus (hand) and stuprare (soil, make dirty). Self pleasure doesn’t make you wrong, mad or even give you acne. It can be a sign of emotional problems if it becomes compulsive but it really is something to embrace.

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Women can feel guilty about resorting to self pleasure, as if they stole something from their significant other: if to be fulfilled by self pleasure leads you to decline sex with your partner, obviously there is a predicament. But, in a couple, it is not necessary that we do everything together; must all pleasure be strictly shared? Sports, music and shopping do you have to do them all together? When self pleasure isn’t an escape, but a search for a balance, then you both will be at ease, and can experience a healthy sex life without tension. Where as frustration due to an insufficient sexuality might cause you to resent your partner, and even wish to turn away from sex with him or her.

In fact self pleasure can be practiced in front of a partner. In a lot of couples it proves to be very exciting. It can be the best means to learn how a lover prefers to be stimulated. Each can guide the hand of the partner to show him/her which pressure and which rhythm the woman prefers. Mutual self pleasure can really spice up a sex life and open the door to experimentation. One’s desire can be increased by seeing the pleasure of the other. One can also self-love before or during sexual intercourse: it serves then as a prelude, increases the excitement, or allows the couple to perfect sexual intercourse.

The use of self-pleasure open up doors to other possibilities it can reduce the over use of vaginal penetration and bring in a new area of enjoyment and variety into the bedroom. It offers many different ways for women to reach orgasm and other types of pleasure. In women it can bring a force of excitement that is not allowed by either the softness of a vagina nor the obligation to hold on for a certain time.

In conclusion there are a many ways women can live out their sexuality. Self pleasure is one: by yourself or in the presence of a partner, frequent or occasional, solitary or mutually shared, it colours the life of one person, is absent in the life of another one, is accessible with out ever being imposed, something that people can take or leave according to their impulse.

I hope that this article has opened up the prospect that self pleasure is really something that can have so many positive benefits for women and can really be a gateway to a more rewarding sex life for your partner and yourself. It is practised by many women and for most it has been something that has only helped them in life. This section only gives a general introduction to self pleasure and guilt and many women may still have questions or still feel unsure. Please read this article again and see that self pleasure can really be such a positive influence.

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The Guide – How To Get My First Orgasm

Hi there I got an email from a 30 year old women who had never had an orgasm and so I wrote back to her how I would apporach the situation myself.  In our email exchange she also said that she had several friends that she thought might benefit from the reply I gave her. It led me to think that there might be many other women in the same situation so decided to post the reply here.

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Dear Reader,

This is the second and final installment from self pleasure for women covering all aspects of the female orgasm.

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The Physical Response in Woman on Achieving Orgasm

The female orgasm normally last much longer than that of a man. It is preceded by the erection of the clitoris and the moistening of the vagina. In is not uncommon for the woman to experience a sexual flush which is a reddening of the skin over much of the body and can be explained due to the increase of blood flow in the body.

When a woman nears orgasm the clitoral galns moves inwards under the clitoral hood and the inner lips become darker. Closer to the orgasm a woman will experience a tightening and narrowing of the vagina with the overall vagina lengthening and dilating becoming congested with engorged soft tissue. The uterus then experiences muscular contractions. In woman the feeling a total orgasm happens when her uterus, vagina, anus and pelvic muscles undergo a series of rhythmic contractions. In most women the whole overall experience is extremely pleasurable. Once the orgasm has finished the clitoris re-emerges from under the hood and returns to normal size usually within ten minutes.

Orgasm and Health

Although I couldn’t find any health studies concerning woman and orgasm research on men and the orgasm and sex as a whole showed that the physical activity requires major exertion of many bodily functions. In 1997 a study by The British Medical Journal in 918 men between the ages of 45-59 then followed up 10 years later showed that men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any causes that those having at least two orgasms a week. In 2001 a follow up that was specifically focused on cardiovascular health found that having sex three times or more a week led to a 50% reduction in the chances of heart attack or stoke.

Achieving Orgasm

One of the main ways to achieve orgasm is by direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. This can be achieved a number of ways such as through sexual intercourse, manual masturbation, oral sex, non penetrative sex, a sensual vibrator or an erotic electro-stimulation. An orgasm can also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples or other erogenous zones. In the absence of physical stimulation orgasm can be accomplished from physiological arousal alone.

The G-Spot is important for woman to realize an orgasm this is an internal gland called the Skene’s gland in woman.

Vaginal Orgasm

The female body can attain orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris and also from stimulation of the G-Spot. Its full name is the Grafenberg spot and is a small area behind the female pubic bone surrounding the urethra and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina. There are certain scientists that believe only certain woman actually have a G-spot. The G-spot orgasm is sometimes referred to as “vaginal” because it results from stimulation inside the vagina, including during sexual intercourse. However please note only stimulation of the G-Spot and other inner vaginal stimulation results in a “vaginal orgasm”.

There is great debate as two whether there is a two orgasm theory that there is a vaginl orgasm and a clitoral orgasm. Many believe that the two orgasm theory is a perception put forward by men and is heavily criticised by feminist such as Ellen Ross.

Freud was the first person to put forward the concept of a purely vaginal orgasm he argued without any evidence that a clitoral orgasm was an adolescent phenomnan and upon reaching puberty the proper response of a mature woman changes to a vaginal orgasm. This theory held parlance for a long time because many women felt inadequate when they could not achieve orgasm via vaginal intercourse that involved little or no clitoral stimulation.

The belief that most people now deem right now we have a greater understanding of the female genitalia and sexual organs is that the clitoris is much larger than we ever understood before is the clitoris actually extends inside and around the body of the vagina and complicates if not invalidates the vaginal vs. clitoral orgasm. Recent anatomical research shows that there are nerves connecting intravaginal tissues and the clitoris. This link between the clitoris and the vagina is evidence that the clitoris is the “seat” of the female orgasm and is far more widespread that the visible part most people associate with the clit. It may explain why some women can realize orgasm by sexual intercourse alone as the may have more extensive clitoral tissue and nerves than other women making an orgasm from penetrative sex possible.

Anal Stimulation

The anal orgasm is often talked about but often misunderstood it can be brought on by anal stimulation such as from anal sex, an inserted finger or sex toy. Anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or “vaginal” orgasm, though for many the distinction is less clear.

In both sexes pleasure can be gained from the nerve endings around the anus and the anus itself. It is known that anal-oral contact can still be pleasurable without stimulation of the clit.

Breast and Nipple Stimulation

It is pretty self explanatory a breast orgasm describes a female orgasm that is triggered by stimulation of the breast. It is not achievable by all women when their breast are stimulated but anecdotal evidence suggest that stimulation of the breast area during sexual intercourse and foreplay, or just simply having their breast fondled creates a more intense orgasm. One study claimed that 29% of woman had at one point or other had experienced a breast orgasm. The way it is explained is that stimulation of the nipples produces the hormone oxytocin which is produced in the body during sexual excitement in all other sexual circumstances.

Multiple Orgasms

Women sometimes don’t have or have a very small period of time between when they first experience an orgasm and then the next one. These subsequent orgasms may actually be more powerful or pleasurable than the first. In some women their clitoris and nipples are very sensitive after climax thus making additional stimulation very painful. There are reports of woman having too many orgasms including a story of one woman in the UK who had them throughout the day at the merest hints of a vibration. Other techniques are analogous to reports by multi-orgasmic women indicating that they must relax and "let go" to experience multiple orgasms.

In Conclusion

The female orgasm can be achieved in several different ways depending on which of the different erogenous zones is stimulated. In many instances it may take time and patience but they can be rewarded with multiple and extremely pleasurable orgasms.

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Many women have written to me and writing of their "guilt" when they decide to self-pleasure. I found this a difficult subject to approach as each individual case was different. Here I list some of the common reasons that most ladies came up with when feeling masturbation shame:

1. They felt they were stealing something from their partner. There was a sense of guilt that the enjoyment should not be felt alone but should be with one's sexual partner.
2. That it was an outright sin or that it was just plain wrong to self-pleasure (the issue of religion in both Muslim and Christian women).
3. Worried about the health issues raised with masturbation can it effect the libido or could it affect subsequent sexual intercourse?

4. Women with kids and young families felt they didn't have the time to themselves to engage in self-pleasure and felt bad when they did masturbate.

There were others examples that were associated with guilt and self-love. It is hard to generalise the subject here as it is easier to

Don't feel guilty about self pleasure

deal with each subject individually. I am just an ordinary girl and haven't any physiology degrees. I feel a little uncomfortable about trying to give such advice.

As a result I decided to come up with a generic answer to the question in the form of firstly why women may feel guilty and then trying to explain why I feel that these beliefs maybe not be correct. I don't want to get into a religious debate or even bully women with my views. It is a case of reading my argument and making your own mind up.

Why Women May Feel Guilty

1. The present day translation maintains the disapproving image alive: to masturbate comes from the association of two Latin words, manus (hand) and stuprare (soil, make dirty)

2. During childhood, the repressive attitude of certain parents can engender later a sense of guilt.

3. For women, the fantasies connected to masturbation (old fantasies, going back up to early childhood) are much stronger. They thus feel guiltier in adulthood if they continue to masturbate while they have a well fulfilled sexual life.

Why Women Shouldn’t Feel Guilty With Self-Pleasure

Masturbation has been condemned for a long time. Religion cast it as a sin and although we have moved on as people to become more self aware the stigma attached to masturbation has stuck with some people still unable to truly feel comfortable about gaining pleasure from their own body.

That common perception negates the fact that self-pleasure can be fun and can really add to your sex life. Many women masturbate. Dr. Alfred Kinsey in his 15 year study of sexual research back in the 1940’s and 1950’s recorded that 60% of women masturbated which other modern day surveys including one of my own on this site confirms.

Women may not want to broadcast this fact to friends, family and the bigger world (which I think is a shame as the more open we girls are the sooner we are liberated and really can enjoy self-love for all its positives).

Women can feel guilty about resorting to masturbation, as if they stole something from their significant other: if to be fulfilled by masturbation leads you to decline sex with your partner, obviously there is a predicament. But, in a couple, it is not necessary that we do everything together; must all pleasure be strictly shared? Sports, music and shopping do you have to do them all together? When masturbation isn’t an escape, but a search for a balance, then you both will be at ease, and can experience a healthy sex life without tension. Where as frustration due to an insufficient sexuality might cause you to resent your partner, and even wish to turn away from sex with him or her.

The use of self-pleasure open up doors to other possibilities it can reduce the over use of vaginal penetration and bring in a new area of enjoyment and variety into the bedroom. It offers many different ways for women to reach orgasm and other types of pleasure. In women it can bring a force of excitement that is no allowed by either the softness of a vagina nor the obligation to hold on for a certain time.

In conclusion there are a many ways women can live out their sexuality. Masturbation is one: by yourself or in the presence of a partner, frequent or occasional, solitary or mutually shared, it colours the life of one person, is absent in the life of another one, is accessible with out ever being imposed, something that people can take or leave according to their impulse.

I hope this has opened up the debate. I know it is not a real answer to the question of guilt and an in depth answer would probably be enough to fill a 500 page thesis. I just wanted to say that self-pleasure is a natural act that I believe should be embraced and enjoyed and can really bring added value to a women and her well being.

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