There are several types of orgasm for ladies. Most females can reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris with the fingers, oral sex or a sex toy such as a the dildo or vibrator.

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The first type of orgasm to explain is the one most people associate with women the vaginal orgasm. The easiest way most women achieve a vaginal orgasm is through G-Spot stimulation. The G-spot is a spongy mass of tissue that swells (engorges with blood) when excited. It's still hard to find for many women. It is however discovered two inches within the vagina on the front wall. It is known that by stimulating the G-Spot for vaginal orgasms leads to a much more powerful orgasmic experience.

The second type of orgasm is the blended orgasm which is a mix of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. They are known to be powerful orgasms that can produce intense orgasms and also lead to female ejaculation.

Multiple orgasms are a series of orgasms that occur over a brief period of time and they can occur with any kind of orgasm. With multiple orgasms after the first orgasm women will have sequential climaxes. Multiple orgasms can be continuous without further stimulation or stimulation necessary for some women to continue to orgasm.

A simultaneous orgasm is when a lovers climax at the same time. This can be a fantastic experience, though doubtless not something you mean to do each time you make love, a lot of the enjoyment of the orgasm is watching your other half have one.

The brain is the largest sex organ, and due to this, some folks can reach climax without sexual stimulation. These orgasms are achieved through a woman having erotic thoughts without stimulation until reaching orgasm.

Nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams are another type prompted by the brain whilst sleeping and most associated with boys going through puberty (put in as technically another type of orgasm).

An extended orgasm is a solitary orgasm that sustains pleasurable sensations of climax over a long than usual period of time. The duration of the orgasm can be developed over time and then can last an hour or longer.

Orgasms are felt in the body, mind, emotions and spirit. The goal of gaining orgasm is to feel the greatest amount of that pleasure as possible either on your own or with a partner. They are mainly through stimulation of erotic zones but it is important to remember the mind needs to be stimulated to really make the most of your sexual encounters and therefore your eventual orgasm.

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The dildo is an object that should be talked about much more openly as it can have a great many benefits to the both the individual and the couple. Love aids come in all shapes and sizes and it maybe hard to choose which one works for whoever is concerned.

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A dildo can be used in many ways as it can be used to stimulate both partners in the couple through gentle use of pressure/insertion on different parts of the anatomy. Irrespective of which type of self-love is involved the act of masturbation allows an individual to explore by themselves what they like and how they like it. When a person is self pleasuring they are in a comfortable setting and often have the time to explore their own body. Using a dildo is an extension of this with a woman for example being able to learn how to get reach different types of orgasm. Through gentle exploration and with time a woman can learn all aspects of what allows her to climax with the most pleasure.

This then can be relayed to a partner who then can use that information to then make sure that the needs of the partner are met which leads to better love-making all-round with everybody happy.

Speaking of couples it is also true that the exploration doesn’t have to be done alone. Dildos can be used as part foreplay or aid sex to allow both couples to get the most from the love-making process.

A couple who slowly want to be come aroused could use the gentle vibrations of a silicone dildo that feels great and also keeps body heat to stimulate one another. On a sensitive part of the body a love aid allows the partner to very gently excite the area without applying to much pressure.

The use of a dildo in love making can take the pressure of a man to perform all the time and he can still satisfy his partner whilst both couples can have fun. Dildos are great for both self-pleasure and also as an aid to sex and should be part of any couples sex life. Yes dildos can benefit a couple’s sex life.

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The Last Two Hotspots

Ladies we have covered the clitoris and the G-Spot. There are two more “erotic zones” that have been recorded. They aren’t that widely known about but knowledge of them can add even more variety to our self-pleasure time.

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The first of these “erotic zones” is a small area of highly sensitive erectile tissue located just above and both sides of the urethral sponge. It is given the name the U-Spot.

The U-Spot

The U-spot has only been recently discovered but has been found by researchers to give an unexpected and highly erotic response when stimulated correctly. It can be for self-pleasure purposes stimulated by a lubricated finger and within love making with a tongue or penis. Please note the U-spot is not the urethral opening, but just above and either side of it.

Your fingers play a crucial role in stimulating every part of your body. When using fingers to stimulate the U-spot, simply slip the fingers in gently above the clitoris, at the opening of the vagina. Do not apply too much pressure because every part of the vagina is sensitive and should be handled with care.

The U-spot with a little experimentation can become a treasured part of the women sexual being as the pleasure from caressing it can be euphoric.

The AFE Zone

The last erotic zone we will talk about is the AFE Zone. Researchers investigating vaginal dryness with Magnetic Resonance Imaging found that when the penis head stimulated certain areas of the vagina Subjects experienced wave after wave of intense pleasure resulting in orgasm climaxes. The results were similar to but more intense than G-Spot stimulation. Sliding the fingers up the front vagina wall you find a rough oval area of ridges. This is the G-Spot.

Sliding the fingers halfway up the posterior vaginal wall you will find a larger area which is slightly rougher than the normal vaginal wall. This is the AFE Zone. This roughness creates the friction and increases the pleasure sensations in both vagina and penis nerves.

The AFE zone is a vortex of the nerves that carry information from your whole genital to the spinal cord and brain. These nerves when stimulated send arousal signals to the part of your nervous system which enhances engorgement of appropriate areas and is responsible for sexual arousal.

This is also true for women that are not normally sexually responsive. Obviously the easiest way to locate the AFE zone is to slide the fingers halfway up the posterior vaginal wall you will find a larger area than the G-Spot, which is slightly rougher than the normal vaginal wall.

Conclusion

These two zones the U-spot and AFE zone are areas of the female genitalia that are still new to researchers and the sex toy market has yet to really make toys to cater to these pleasure areas. However, with lubricated finger(s) and a little experimentation a girl could really have some fun.

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I decided to through my website to undertake an online survey to find out how many women masturbate in some form or other I found the survey results fascinating.

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Please take into consideration people had to find my website and that those that did were probably more likely to masturbate than the norm. I still think the results are relevant and I decided to split the results into different age groups for further relevance.

Here are the results in the table below:-

The survey included results collected from a range of women from the differing age groups. The survey was collated by the 2168 women who were kind enough to answer my survey honestly and with great openness that I will always be truly grateful for.

The survey makes for very interesting reading and shows that for many women that masturbation is the norm and not the exception.

The highest age group that admits to masturbation are those in the 20-24 year old age range can be explained through a period of experimentation and self-discovery of their own bodies. Masturbation is the best way for these ladies to learn what they need to gain the most pleasure from their own bodies. These women have had several sexual partners and now sexualised want to work out what really works for them and are happy in their own selves to feel liberated enough to self-love.

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The main reason for the downturn in numbers after the 20-24 year old age range can be attested to having children. Many women who answered my survey explain this too giving birth. Women explained that they had trouble getting back their sex drive in general after giving birth many ladies explained they simply didn’t feel like sex or masturbation for reason both mental and physical or simply through a lack of time or privacy once kids were factored into the equation.

The Women Who Own Sex Toys

In the next question in our survey we asked women whether they owned a sex toy to aid to their sex life or simply for self pleasure again the survey was split into separate ages for more understanding. Here are the results.

It appears that many women have a sex toy of some sort or other with most women explaining that for the most part they had a dildos but also ben wa balls and beads as well. It also became apparent that many young women like to carry a dildo around them at all times in case of emergency use wherever they go.

From the survey and subsequent questions I was able to ask it was obvious that the use of sex toys were on the rise and many women owned more than one type of sex toy so that they could gain various sensations from the different sizes, shapes, materials and items that allows women to find what they need to please them.

These toys aren’t just used for self pleasuring and are now used by many people as part of their love-making routine.

The reasons being as we alluded to earlier about the empowerment of woman has led these ladies not to only want they want in the bedroom but also how they can best achieve the satisfaction they want. In recent surveys it has found that less than 38% of women can achieve an orgasm through penetration only. The majority of women need multiple stimuli to reach fulfilment.

It is through masturbation and self-discovery through the use of sex toys that women are now understanding through experimentation how best to reach orgasm. This then can then be related to the women’s partners who can then through sympathetic love-making help achieve the needs of each individual within the couple to accomplish a hedonistic and satisfying conclusion to sexual interaction.

Masturbation allows a woman to find whether she prefers clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration or G-Spot stimulation as the best way for her to reach an orgasm. It would also allow a lady to understand the pressure she needs or whether she has stroked or be touched and also if she can stand actual touching of her clitoris as for some ladies it can be too painful to have direct pressure on this part of their genitals.

In Conclusion

Masturbation is practised by the majority of women who will use any methods to gain what they want. I think the revolution has really been one that has allowed women to overcome many barriers and even allows ladies in certain situations to really feel in control not of their own bodies but their own destinies too.

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This is the second and final installment from self pleasure for women covering all aspects of the female orgasm.

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The Physical Response in Woman on Achieving Orgasm

The female orgasm normally last much longer than that of a man. It is preceded by the erection of the clitoris and the moistening of the vagina. In is not uncommon for the woman to experience a sexual flush which is a reddening of the skin over much of the body and can be explained due to the increase of blood flow in the body.

When a woman nears orgasm the clitoral galns moves inwards under the clitoral hood and the inner lips become darker. Closer to the orgasm a woman will experience a tightening and narrowing of the vagina with the overall vagina lengthening and dilating becoming congested with engorged soft tissue. The uterus then experiences muscular contractions. In woman the feeling a total orgasm happens when her uterus, vagina, anus and pelvic muscles undergo a series of rhythmic contractions. In most women the whole overall experience is extremely pleasurable. Once the orgasm has finished the clitoris re-emerges from under the hood and returns to normal size usually within ten minutes.

Orgasm and Health

Although I couldn’t find any health studies concerning woman and orgasm research on men and the orgasm and sex as a whole showed that the physical activity requires major exertion of many bodily functions. In 1997 a study by The British Medical Journal in 918 men between the ages of 45-59 then followed up 10 years later showed that men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any causes that those having at least two orgasms a week. In 2001 a follow up that was specifically focused on cardiovascular health found that having sex three times or more a week led to a 50% reduction in the chances of heart attack or stoke.

Achieving Orgasm

One of the main ways to achieve orgasm is by direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. This can be achieved a number of ways such as through sexual intercourse, manual masturbation, oral sex, non penetrative sex, a sensual vibrator or an erotic electro-stimulation. An orgasm can also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples or other erogenous zones. In the absence of physical stimulation orgasm can be accomplished from physiological arousal alone.

The G-Spot is important for woman to realize an orgasm this is an internal gland called the Skene’s gland in woman.

Vaginal Orgasm

The female body can attain orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris and also from stimulation of the G-Spot. Its full name is the Grafenberg spot and is a small area behind the female pubic bone surrounding the urethra and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina. There are certain scientists that believe only certain woman actually have a G-spot. The G-spot orgasm is sometimes referred to as “vaginal” because it results from stimulation inside the vagina, including during sexual intercourse. However please note only stimulation of the G-Spot and other inner vaginal stimulation results in a “vaginal orgasm”.

There is great debate as two whether there is a two orgasm theory that there is a vaginl orgasm and a clitoral orgasm. Many believe that the two orgasm theory is a perception put forward by men and is heavily criticised by feminist such as Ellen Ross.

Freud was the first person to put forward the concept of a purely vaginal orgasm he argued without any evidence that a clitoral orgasm was an adolescent phenomnan and upon reaching puberty the proper response of a mature woman changes to a vaginal orgasm. This theory held parlance for a long time because many women felt inadequate when they could not achieve orgasm via vaginal intercourse that involved little or no clitoral stimulation.

The belief that most people now deem right now we have a greater understanding of the female genitalia and sexual organs is that the clitoris is much larger than we ever understood before is the clitoris actually extends inside and around the body of the vagina and complicates if not invalidates the vaginal vs. clitoral orgasm. Recent anatomical research shows that there are nerves connecting intravaginal tissues and the clitoris. This link between the clitoris and the vagina is evidence that the clitoris is the “seat” of the female orgasm and is far more widespread that the visible part most people associate with the clit. It may explain why some women can realize orgasm by sexual intercourse alone as the may have more extensive clitoral tissue and nerves than other women making an orgasm from penetrative sex possible.

Anal Stimulation

The anal orgasm is often talked about but often misunderstood it can be brought on by anal stimulation such as from anal sex, an inserted finger or sex toy. Anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or “vaginal” orgasm, though for many the distinction is less clear.

In both sexes pleasure can be gained from the nerve endings around the anus and the anus itself. It is known that anal-oral contact can still be pleasurable without stimulation of the clit.

Breast and Nipple Stimulation

It is pretty self explanatory a breast orgasm describes a female orgasm that is triggered by stimulation of the breast. It is not achievable by all women when their breast are stimulated but anecdotal evidence suggest that stimulation of the breast area during sexual intercourse and foreplay, or just simply having their breast fondled creates a more intense orgasm. One study claimed that 29% of woman had at one point or other had experienced a breast orgasm. The way it is explained is that stimulation of the nipples produces the hormone oxytocin which is produced in the body during sexual excitement in all other sexual circumstances.

Multiple Orgasms

Women sometimes don’t have or have a very small period of time between when they first experience an orgasm and then the next one. These subsequent orgasms may actually be more powerful or pleasurable than the first. In some women their clitoris and nipples are very sensitive after climax thus making additional stimulation very painful. There are reports of woman having too many orgasms including a story of one woman in the UK who had them throughout the day at the merest hints of a vibration. Other techniques are analogous to reports by multi-orgasmic women indicating that they must relax and "let go" to experience multiple orgasms.

In Conclusion

The female orgasm can be achieved in several different ways depending on which of the different erogenous zones is stimulated. In many instances it may take time and patience but they can be rewarded with multiple and extremely pleasurable orgasms.

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Well how could I at self pleasure for women have been so stupid? Here I am talking about self pleasure and the female body and related self pleasure subjects and I have failed to write about the orgasm. I am not sure how I managed to miss it. This websites dedicated to self pleasure for women and well why do we all self love? Ultimately it is to reach orgasm.

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Yes, I have written here about the overall benefits of self pleasure and the exploration of your own body. Now I need to add the final part of the whole endeavour and that is to explain the whole concept of the orgasm. It is a large subject to cover so I am going to write about the subject of he orgasm in a series of post over the coming weeks. This will hopefully stop me overloading you all with too much information and make the orgasm easier to understand. Let start at the beginning shall we.

What is an Orgasm?

An orgasm (sexual climax) is the conclusion of the plateau phase in the bodies’ response to sexual stimulus and maybe experienced by both males and females. An orgasm is characterised by intense physical pleasure controlled by the involuntary or automatic nervous system. The orgasm often leads to involuntary actions such as muscular spasms in other parts of the body, a general euphoric sensation, and as all girls know may need lead to the need to shout out.

Definitions of orgasm

Three is heated debate as to what types of sexual sensation can accurately be termed as “orgasm”, including for example of the orgasm caused by G-spot stimulation alone and the manifestation of extended or continuous orgasms lasting several minutes or even more than an hour. The debate central point is the clinical definition of the orgasm.

The way it is usually described in the clinical context is by the muscular contractions involved.

This is open to speculation as within people their perceptions of achieving orgasm are different and do not necessarily involve the involuntary contractions characteristics of orgasm. In would be fair to say though that in both sexes the feeling of climaxing is enormously enjoyable and often felt throughout the whole body, causing a mental state that many describe as transcendental (moving, awe-inspiring).

Evolutionary functions of orgasms

This too is open to speculation but I would like to believe the writings of Desmond Morris who in 1967 in his book The Naked Ape an admired science book put forward the theory that the female orgasm developed to encourage physical intimacy with a male partner and help reinforce the pair bond.. Morris goes much further and suggests that the difficulty a woman has achieving an orgasm has Darwinian undertones as it leads to females selecting males who bear the qualities such as patience, care, imagination, intelligence rather than negative traits such as aggression, which are present in other primates.

The difference between the two sexes was accentuated over time because if a male had to work hard to achieve an orgasm like a female then self-interest in achieving an orgasm for himself would be enough for him to work hard in sexual situations rather than show other positive traits.

There are other theories that the orgasm developed in the female to help increase fertility as it has been shown that the vagina reduces in size by 30% during orgasm so therefore clenching the penis more thus causing more sensation in the male and could lead to a faster and more volumous ejaculation.

In 1997 Learning Channel documentary on sex placed fibre optic cables inside the vagina of a woman and showed during an orgasm that a woman pelvic muscle contracts and that her cervix dipped into a pool of semen in the vagina making conception more likely.

It can be argued that the fact that a woman can achieve an orgasm more easily during ovulation that the orgasm is tied to fertility.

The other theory suggested by biologists is that the orgasm simply developed to motivate humans to have sex which results in the increased chance of reproduction as males typically reach orgasm faster than females, it potentially encourages a females desire to engage in intercourse more frequently there again increasing the likelihood.

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Many women have written to me and writing of their "guilt" when they decide to self-pleasure. I found this a difficult subject to approach as each individual case was different. Here I list some of the common reasons that most ladies came up with when feeling masturbation shame:

1. They felt they were stealing something from their partner. There was a sense of guilt that the enjoyment should not be felt alone but should be with one's sexual partner.
2. That it was an outright sin or that it was just plain wrong to self-pleasure (the issue of religion in both Muslim and Christian women).
3. Worried about the health issues raised with masturbation can it effect the libido or could it affect subsequent sexual intercourse?

4. Women with kids and young families felt they didn't have the time to themselves to engage in self-pleasure and felt bad when they did masturbate.

There were others examples that were associated with guilt and self-love. It is hard to generalise the subject here as it is easier to

Don't feel guilty about self pleasure

deal with each subject individually. I am just an ordinary girl and haven't any physiology degrees. I feel a little uncomfortable about trying to give such advice.

As a result I decided to come up with a generic answer to the question in the form of firstly why women may feel guilty and then trying to explain why I feel that these beliefs maybe not be correct. I don't want to get into a religious debate or even bully women with my views. It is a case of reading my argument and making your own mind up.

Why Women May Feel Guilty

1. The present day translation maintains the disapproving image alive: to masturbate comes from the association of two Latin words, manus (hand) and stuprare (soil, make dirty)

2. During childhood, the repressive attitude of certain parents can engender later a sense of guilt.

3. For women, the fantasies connected to masturbation (old fantasies, going back up to early childhood) are much stronger. They thus feel guiltier in adulthood if they continue to masturbate while they have a well fulfilled sexual life.

Why Women Shouldn’t Feel Guilty With Self-Pleasure

Masturbation has been condemned for a long time. Religion cast it as a sin and although we have moved on as people to become more self aware the stigma attached to masturbation has stuck with some people still unable to truly feel comfortable about gaining pleasure from their own body.

That common perception negates the fact that self-pleasure can be fun and can really add to your sex life. Many women masturbate. Dr. Alfred Kinsey in his 15 year study of sexual research back in the 1940’s and 1950’s recorded that 60% of women masturbated which other modern day surveys including one of my own on this site confirms.

Women may not want to broadcast this fact to friends, family and the bigger world (which I think is a shame as the more open we girls are the sooner we are liberated and really can enjoy self-love for all its positives).

Women can feel guilty about resorting to masturbation, as if they stole something from their significant other: if to be fulfilled by masturbation leads you to decline sex with your partner, obviously there is a predicament. But, in a couple, it is not necessary that we do everything together; must all pleasure be strictly shared? Sports, music and shopping do you have to do them all together? When masturbation isn’t an escape, but a search for a balance, then you both will be at ease, and can experience a healthy sex life without tension. Where as frustration due to an insufficient sexuality might cause you to resent your partner, and even wish to turn away from sex with him or her.

The use of self-pleasure open up doors to other possibilities it can reduce the over use of vaginal penetration and bring in a new area of enjoyment and variety into the bedroom. It offers many different ways for women to reach orgasm and other types of pleasure. In women it can bring a force of excitement that is no allowed by either the softness of a vagina nor the obligation to hold on for a certain time.

In conclusion there are a many ways women can live out their sexuality. Masturbation is one: by yourself or in the presence of a partner, frequent or occasional, solitary or mutually shared, it colours the life of one person, is absent in the life of another one, is accessible with out ever being imposed, something that people can take or leave according to their impulse.

I hope this has opened up the debate. I know it is not a real answer to the question of guilt and an in depth answer would probably be enough to fill a 500 page thesis. I just wanted to say that self-pleasure is a natural act that I believe should be embraced and enjoyed and can really bring added value to a women and her well being.

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