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Women’s Sexual Fantasies – How Women Fantasize

Holly Franklin — Sat, 02 May 2009 18:46:57 +0000

Do You Fantasize? Women, Sex and Fantasizing

Dr. Alfred Kinsey was a noted researcher in sexual behaviour and had several books published including two books “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male” and “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Female”.

In his studies Kinsey found that more men than women reported fantasizing about sex, though women were as afar from being asexual in mind as in deed. Kinsey was especially interested in fantasy during masturbation. He found that 89% of men who masturbated fantasized but only 64% of women did, and men did so much more regularly.

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I believe the figure would be much higher for women today just from my own experiences and through conversations with readers of my website. The figure will also be higher now because sexual fantasizing is considered normal and appropriate for both sexes. Plus anyone who knows me will attest that I truly believe that fantasizing is key to a healthily lifestyle and maximising the pleasure anyone can get from their own body.

To get further in to the fantasy topic it is interesting to note that although men still fantasize more during masturbation than women; there is evidence that women fantasize as much or even more than men during intercourse (I know I have had too when some uninspired man thinks he is making “sweet love” to me). I think the reason women probably fantasize more is because for most women the physical stimulation of intercourse isn’t enough t bring her to orgasm.

In today’s more sexual enlightened world writers, books and the media now even encourage women to use fantasy to enhance their sexual experiences. Many people (including some psychotherapists) presumed that women who fantasized during sex were neurotic, bored, unhappy or frustrated. The fact is E. Barbara Hariton during her studies in 1973 found no instance of emotional instability in these women. Instead they tended to be creative, nonconformist, sexually active and satisfied.

In their fantasies people of both sexes tend to imagine forbidden activities or partners but certain themes are more characteristic of one sex than of the other. Men are some what likelier than women to think about group sex, sex with a stranger, forcing women to have sex or overcoming a woman’s initial resistance. Women are somewhat likelier than men to think about romantic situations or being overpowered. Fantasies involving force by the way usually don’t include physical violence or psychological degradation and therefore should not be considered rape fantasies.

For both men and women fantasies are a way of mentally role-playing certain cultural erotic roles or of experiencing a side of oneself that they cannot or would not want to be expressed in real life. Undeniably most fantasies have little to do with reality. For example Hariton found that those women who fantasised about being dominated sexually are most often in their real lives professionally successful people.

In conclusion sexual fantasies are normal among the majority of both men and women in self pleasure and intercourse situations. It is fun and can en-heighten any sexual situation. I even sometimes find it fun and great foreplay to get a partner to talk to me about their sexual fantasises and who knows that discussion could lead to some exciting new sexual experiences that you never ever dreamed of.

As far as I am concerned I conclude –

“Just let you mind wander and then your hands”

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Self-Pleasure – Sexual Fantasies s

Holly Franklin — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 18:37:14 +0000

Sexual Fantasies and Self Pleasure

As I wrote in my earlier article about self pleasure and how to get the most from your experience; fantasy is key ingredient to any self-pleasure experience. An orgasm happens as much between the ears girls as it does down below.

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All the best sexual experiences that you have had I would guess involved something unique or different that set it apart. I would also presume that even the thought and anticipation of the great sexual experience you were about to have made the deed even better.

Role play can be great for sex and this can be brought into self-pleasure too. When self-pleasuring girls why not let your imagination run wild? It maybe an old sexual experience that you want to create in your mind, perhaps there was a gorgeous guy/gal you caught a glimpse of on the street or just let your mind take flight.

I have one fantasy that I would like to share with you. As I constantly repeat in my site. I want people to be open about their sexual experiences as it can only be of benefit for you and our partner. Let me share one of my fantasies with you to give an idea of what I am talking about.

My Fantasy

When I was 18 years old there was a friend of my father’ called Bob. Bob was the kind of guy that people were just radiated too. He was in his early 50’s and had a salt and pepper hair and a rugged air about him. He was a boat builder and spent most of him time outside in the boat yard. It sort of aged in him and sun drenched natural way.

Bob was not attractive in the conventional sense but had a tight body for his age as he still fixed up boats using mostly traditional methods. He was lithe, athletic and as I said had a presence about him. I guess spending a lot of time by himself working on boats by the water had made him a mellow fellow who always seemed happy with his life. Bob was the kind of guy with his nonchalant, laconic and happy approach to life exuded a presence that just seem to attract others Bob was the kind of guy who when he walked in a bar despite his age you would have to check out again. I guess he came across as a bit of an alpha male without even trying.

Bob had been friends with my father since they were kids at school. He was more of an uncle figure really then anything else. I had been a tomboy (still am) when growing up and spent many a summers day growing up helping Bob at his boat yard. It wasn’t until I was 18 and between school and work that I realised that I found this man hot.

I don’t know if he ever knew (although I now expect he did) I was very attracted to this guy. It was my last summer working for Bob and I must confess (Still quite childish) that as the summer went on my clothes did start to get shorter (I sometimes laugh when I look back) as I tried to catch Bob’s eye. The clothes I wore weren’t always practical either. Anyhows, I am sure sometimes I felt he was looking at me when I couldn’t see him when I was working on a boat but he never did anything about it. I never did get to feel Bob’s hands on me.

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This is where my imagination started to kick in a long with my raging hormones and yearnings (got I sound like a bad Mills and Boon novel!). I went unfulfilled so in the end made Bob the object of my self-pleasure fantasies.

I imagined the situation where were working on a boat and I am wearing a tight pair of shorts. I am bending over shaving off some wood with an old lathe. I feel Bob eyes on me and when I turn round quickly I surprise him and catch his eye. I follow his gaze to where he is looking at my butt. We are locked in eyes fixed on one another then without saying a word I go over and get and old blanket and lay it on the ground. All this time Bob doesn’t move he just watches me. Then as I take my sweet time making sure there aren’t any creases in the blanket. I start to undress and this is when Bob comes over and starts to help me. I lay on the blanket as Bob slowly takes all my clothes off one by one finishing with my panties. Then with his thick rough hands he gently explores my body. His hands are rough from his boat work and are like fine sandpaper on my skin and the sensation of his gentle exploration make me moan. I imagine Bob as a very considerate lover who due to the time he has spent working alone on his boats makes him slow and gentle (unlike boys my age at the time).

My eyes are closed at this point and I feel him stop and I open my eyes and he is looking directly into them and smiles as he kisses me tenderly on the lips. Then he starts to make his way slowly down my body kissing me gently as he goes. Fist the cheek, neck, chest, nipples, belly button, my thighs and then back up to my now wet centre. He takes his time teasing me he is in total control of me and his surroundings. I yearn for what is about to come as he tenderly increases the pleasure I am feeling.

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Bob is teasing me it is as though he knows when I am about to reach my zenith and then stops and then starts again so I know that when he finally takes me to climax it will be a mind-blowing experience. Then after about the fifth times of taking me nearly to my summit I feel Bob’s length enter me and a ripple of sheer joy rides through me from top to toe. Then the final assent begins and rhythmically and with all a growing sense of anticipation we finally orgasm as one and my heart and mind melt into nothing as I can only feel the absolute pleasure of the moment.

Bob kissing me tenderly and then lays by my side just looking at me and smiling as I feel the warmth of the smile and my face. We just sit there him looking at me as I look up at the big Montana sky. Then somehow Bob knows I am ready and he takes me to the water for a swim where sometime in the fantasy we begin again (but that is another story!)

I know it sounds corny but well girls it works for me. I tell you now even the smell of vanish or paint can get me hot again and certainly makes me smile. I will never know if Bob ever thought of me that way but I don’t care because I have that fantasy that I still use from time to time and it really makes my self-pleasure experience even better.

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