To keep a marriage good you have to work on it. Both of you have to be ready to keep working on the relationship. You will need lots of tender loving care to keep your relationship fresh and exciting. There is always a giving and receiving in a relationship, if both of you are willing to do that, chances are high that your marriage will survive.

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Below you find eight tips on how to make your marriage work:

1. Learn how to communicate effectively. It doesn't matter if you just got married or if it has been a long time since you two started out – this will build a strong relationship. Try to listen to your partner to be certain that you are understanding what they are telling you. Give each other your full attention when you are talking. It will help you greatly to understand them, when you are looking each other in the eyes when having a conversation. It is not enough to just listen to them. Always reveal through your behavior that you have clearly understood everything said.

2. Never assume you know how your partner feels about anything. Just because you like something don't volunteer them to do it with you. ASK! Never forget to be so thoughtful to see if they would like to do it.

3. Acknowledge when your partner does something nice. When your partner does something good, Say, I caught you! Then go ahead and tell them how much you appreciate it that they have been doing such a wonderful thing. You'll be surprised how far a little appreciation goes. Every time when you show your partner that they are making you happy, they will be doing kind things again and again to receive your recognition.

4. At least once a week do something together that you are both enjoying. Take a class together, go hiking, fishing, read poetry to each other. Look for any shared interests and keep doing them as often as possible.

5. Don't be only the partner, be the best friend. Always encourage them when they are working toward a goal they want to achieve. When necessary, provide a shoulder to cry on and be there to hold their hand when needed. Share all your dreams and reveal your goals, so you both can work together. Make sure to let them know how proud you are when the succeed in something.

6. Don't make the mistake to ignore your partner. Never be too busy with your own life that you forget the everyday niceties. Hug and kiss them daily. Don't hang out with your friends the whole weekend or watch TV. Make it a habit to spend time together with your partner each weekend, so you will have more in common to talk about and you will see that you will grow closer together.

7. It is very important that you "never go to bed angry", this might be hard sometimes, but it is vital. It will become a lot easier for your anger to come to a full boil when you let it simmer long enough. It will never be possible to solve problems by just going to bed or leaving the house to avoid them. Learn to agree to disagree if need be to keep the peace. But this is only working if you are really honest with yourself and you are sure that its ok to agree to disagree, specifically when it is a smaller problem. This helps you in not wasting time by being angry about small things.

8. There is nothing wrong with admitting that you are wrong. If you are wrong, admit it. Being proud doesn't help you achieving your goals and it will not support you to a great marriage either.

Although there will be always individual differences in a relationship, living in harmony is possible. Keep doing the above mentioned things and make sure you have worked out any problem before going to bed.

Love and cherish the other. Be loving and honest to another, this will help building a strong bondage. This is how you make your marriage work.

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Well ladies the financial crisis has been far reaching and has really started to hit a majority of my friends. Well a little tongue in cheek but at selfplasureforwomen.com we have few ideas on how we girls can help ourselves and make the current predicament a little easier to bear.

Everyone has a little less money in their pocket as prices keep rising as the oil prices fluctuate. Us girls cannot afford to go out as much as we used to which means we are at home a lot more. The problem is how can we fill some of the time we now have on our hands either if we live by ourselves or with a partner.

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Ladies the solution is at hand literality the clue is in our website name. Yes girls it is time to get more enjoyment from ourselves. Hell getting an orgasm is about the most fun we lasses can get and it is free. This can be achieved by ourselves or with a partner.

I believe this is a great time to explore your body and learn how to get the most pleasure possible from it. An ideal way to really get the most satisfaction is with the help of a good toy.

Ladies getting yourself a good vibrator can be a real investment at this time. Imagine the scenario you have a bit of time on your hands and there isn’t anything on TV and you are wondering what to do. Well it is the perfect time to bring out a toy and have some fun for yourself. A good toy could provide hours of entertainment over several years at for as little as $20.

Girls I have several different toys from nipple claps and several dildo/vibrators which I will be assure you I will be using over the coming months now I will be spending more time at home.

Here ladies are some related articles that that I think might aid you in a decision on whether a toy is the right choice for you. Girls let get going! Oh if you would like some more information or need some advice then please  contact me and I will help in anyway I can. Thanks Holly.

Why We Should All Self Pleasure – A great article that is a good guide to start with when thinking about self pleasure.

Which and How Many Women Self Pleasure – This article lets you know how many women masturbate.

How to Choose the Right Dildo – An easy to use guide to help you choose the perfect dildo for you.

How to Use A Dildo – An easy guide to start you getting off.

World’d Top Three Most Powerful Vibrators – A lot of ladies asked for this info so I went and go it for you.

Jenna’s Ultimate Rotating G-Spot Vibrator – This is my favourite toy at the moment.

Nipple and Breast Play – Learn to love other parts of your body.

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The dildo is an object that should be talked about much more openly as it can have a great many benefits to the both the individual and the couple. Love aids come in all shapes and sizes and it maybe hard to choose which one works for whoever is concerned.

Setting aside though for a moment the wealth of choice when purchasing a dildo we should explore why purchasing a sex toy is a good idea.

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A dildo can be used in many ways as it can be used to stimulate both partners in the couple through gentle use of pressure/insertion on different parts of the anatomy. Irrespective of which type of self-love is involved the act of masturbation allows an individual to explore by themselves what they like and how they like it. When a person is self pleasuring they are in a comfortable setting and often have the time to explore their own body. Using a dildo is an extension of this with a woman for example being able to learn how to get reach different types of orgasm. Through gentle exploration and with time a woman can learn all aspects of what allows her to climax with the most pleasure.

This then can be relayed to a partner who then can use that information to then make sure that the needs of the partner are met which leads to better love-making all-round with everybody happy.

Speaking of couples it is also true that the exploration doesn’t have to be done alone. Dildos can be used as part foreplay or aid sex to allow both couples to get the most from the love-making process.

A couple who slowly want to be come aroused could use the gentle vibrations of a silicone dildo that feels great and also keeps body heat to stimulate one another. On a sensitive part of the body a love aid allows the partner to very gently excite the area without applying to much pressure.

The use of a dildo in love making can take the pressure of a man to perform all the time and he can still satisfy his partner whilst both couples can have fun. Dildos are great for both self-pleasure and also as an aid to sex and should be part of any couples sex life. Yes dildos can benefit a couple’s sex life.

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The first step in understanding Hysteria is to understand where the word came from. Hysteria is derived from an ancient Greek word, 'hystera', which means uterus.

So the uterus is the center of this disease, its origins if you will. But why the uterus? The uterus has a long and unhappy history of being thought of as evil, as being the area of the woman's body that causes sickness, mental instability and craziness.

Hysteria turned out to be a great diagnosis for doctors to give their female patients. Since hysteria was caused by the uterus and everybody knew how unstable and weak women were, every illness that wasn't understood could be called Hysteria.

It all comes back to the uterus and the lack of understanding of how the female reproductive system worked. But there was a definite trend of who tended to suffer from Hysteria, this included virgins, nuns, widows and the occasional housewife. But why? What do these women have in common?

Sex, or a lack thereof. Women were considered unstable and weak and a lack of "hysterical paroxysm", or as we tend to refer to it, orgasm, could cause them to enter a crazed state.

Since masturbation was a very terrible thing to do there were doctors who would help women who suffered from Hysteria. In order to do this they would provide women with pelvic massages, manually inducing hysterical paroxysm.

But there was one problem with this method of treatment, sometimes it could take hours to achieve the desired result. And with such a long treatment time doctors were unable to treat many patients in a day, creating a lack of income. One way doctors tried to speed things along in the mid to late 1800's was through the use of water hoses, creating a water massage.

But thankfully in 1873 a new tool was created and first used in an asylum in France to treat Hysteria. This tool was called a electromechanical vibrator. This wondrous tool allowed doctors to help their patients in a matter of minutes, not hours.

As technology advanced more and more people got electricity in their houses, allowing women to treat themselves in the comfort of their own home. Sears even advertised their vibrators in their 1918 catalogue where they said their vibrators were ”Very useful and satisfactory for home service.”

And so vibrators became much more common place, women could use vibrators at home, which was not masturbating, since it was all in the name of keeping them healthy and sane.

But nowadays there is no such illness as Hysteria so women can't say their vibrators such as bullet vibrators are used for their mental health. But luckily they don't need to.

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The three main aspects of buying a dildo are shape, material and colour. A woman wants something that looks and feels good. Most dildos are made of rubber. Even with rubber there are different types with jelly rubber being quite popular and coming in interesting colours.

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Hard plastic dildos are inflexible and many women just don’t like the feel of them. If women use these then it is often only for short periods of time. I would suggest that hard plastic is really only for more experienced dildo users.

When buying a dildo really think about what you want from them and it is better to start a little smaller rather that go for one too big. Dildos aren’t cheap and they are certainly not returnable.

If you are new to sex toys then buying an inexpensive jelly rubber dildo maybe he ideal starting point; this way you can find out what shape and size suits you for a small outlay. Then when you know what makes you happy then treat yourself to a silicone dildo or something more expensive but more life like.

Silicone dildos are at the expensive end of the market but are of the highest quality available and I would highly recommend them if you budget can stretch that far. The reasons that silicone is so highly thought of is due to:

• Silicone in non-porous and can be boiled in water (great for hygiene purposes)

• Silicone transmits vibrations well and holds temperature (is feels great when you are in the flow of things)

• Silicone is available in a wide range of colours, shapes and sizes (Girls the dildo has to look and feel good)

• Silicone is strong, durable and clean

Silicone is the ideal choice if you are concerned about allergies or reacting to toys in a different way. Technology has moved on now and you can also get dildos that feel very realistic (like cyberskin dildos but cleaner and safer).

Silicone dildos usually start at around $20 (£10) to about $100 (£50), although they can be a lot more expensive. This is expensive for a dildo but you are paying for a superior product.

Here is a list of the different dildos on the market as I write this post:-

• Glass, Metal, Plastic/Acrylic Dildo
• Jelly Rubber Dildo
• Cyberskin Dildo
• Harness dildo

There are more types to follow! Remember the Silicone Dildo too!

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Self-pleasure can be greatly incresed by finding yourself a good dildo girls. Dildo use is pretty wide spread and a recent survey in a monthly glossy magazine reported that 20% of young professional women between the ages of 24 and 35 carry a dildo with all of the time. Self-pleasure and dildos are a match made in heaven.

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What is a dildo?

So you want to know how to use a dildo? OK ladies so on this site  we have discussed the benefits of using a dildo, how to choose a dildo however ladies unless you know how to use a sex toy correctly you will never really truly feel the real benefits or pleasure a love-aid can give.

As a result I have decided to put together a guide here to help those who are approaching dildo use without much experience. It is not a step by step guide but will point you in the right direction.

Lubrication

Unlike a penis a dildo doesn’t produce it’s on lubricant so girls it is very important to lube up. It is a common fallacy that a woman's own natural lubricant will suffice.

The truth is quite often the materials of penetrative toys actually absorb a woman's lubricant.

Whenever a woman is using a penetrative toy it is vital she doesn't hold back on the lubricant. Remember most materials don’t slide easily and if not properly lubricated can lead to unpleasant friction. That may lead to nasty soreness that can last for several days.

In the Mood For Love

You will feel discomfort if you try to use a dildo before being suitably aroused. Take your time with the toy and work your way to arousal through stimulation of other erogenous zones such as the clitoris.

If you have a vibrating dildo for example; gently caress you clitoris using a gentle buzz setting to get yourself excited if not use your hands. You would’t want a lover to jump right in and the same approach has to be applied to dildo use.

Take It Easy

The first penetration should be taken very slowly and with deep breaths. Taking these long breaths allows blood to rush to the genitals which help them to engorge and relax. If you take short breaths or hold your breath it stops all of this taking place resulting in tightness and tenderness.

Once the dildo is inserted I would suggest leaving it in there for a moment to allow the body to get used to the feel of it and give time for the body to relax properly. Remember you don’t have to insert the entire dildo in (do what feels nice and comfortable). Some women like deep penetration and others more shallow insertion.

Remember that it is your toy girls; you are in control and play around with your dildo as you like. Work out what feels nice. Lube yourself up around the genitals plus your dildo too; then rub it against your lips and clitoris teasing yourself and then onto penetration. This really can be a lot of fun.

Are We Having Fun Yet?

Do anything you want ladies. Insert the entire dildo or only half of it. Put it in deeply or shallower, enjoy fast or slow motions (tease yourself when you feel that you are close to climax, stop then count to thirty and begin pleasuring yourself again. Let the anticipation build again, stop and repeat this a few times the resulting orgasm will be electric).

Enjoy every moment of your play with your sex toy. I like to go deep and hard when I am hot and aroused. There is no hard and fast rule about dildo use and the key is to take you time and relax, have fun and listen to what your body is telling you.

Remember girls practice makes perfect. The more you use your dildo the more you will understand your body and the greater the delights that will unfold.

How Yo Use A Dildo – To Sum Up

Well ladies enjoy the ride but please note after that great orgasm you aren’t finished. Always make sure that you clean your dildo with anti-bacterial soap and water or a commercial sex toy cleaner or even sterilize it (many dildos are now even dishwasher safe!). Then rinse your dildo and make sure it is properly dried.

Then when your dildo is squeaky clean and dry store somewhere dry and at room temperature. The ideal situation is to store in a soft material in a drawer.

Never use a faulty or damaged dildo because the genital tissue is very fragile and can be easily damaged. Please girls enjoy your dildo they really are fun.

A good dildo is never tired, has a head ache plus always give an orgasm! (who needs a man)?

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Double ended dildos otherwise known as double dongers are manufactured for simultaneous double penetration. They are designed for both vaginal and anal penetration and can be used by men and women.

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The best double dongers and the ones I would recommend are made of silicone and have a curve to them that facilitates greater movement and physical closeness. There are cheaper alternative double ended dildos that are made of jelly rubber. The cheaper ones don’t feel as comfortable and are require you to wear a condom to ensure hygienic safety (silicone dildos can be boiled between uses).

Double dongers often require some imagination and patience. They can be great fun in the bedroom but it requires practice to find a rhythm and technique that works for the individual/couple (warning it will be awkward at first but please have patience). Double ended dildos can also be used by the individual with the other end making a great handle when being used for penetration.

It must be noted that many double dongers are used with a harness in mind where they provide penetration for the person wearing the harness and for the individual on the receiving end.

Here is a list of the different dildos on the market as I write this post:-

• Silicone dildo
• Jelly Rubber Dildo
• Glass, Metal, Plastic/Acrylic Dildo
• Harness dildo

There are more types to follow!

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