Women’s Sexual Fantasies – How Women Fantasize

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How Women Fantasize And What We Fantasize About

Dr. Alfred Kinsey was a noted researcher in sexual behaviour and had several books published including two books “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male” and “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Female”.

In his studies Kinsey found that more men than women reported fantasizing about sex, though women were as afar from being asexual in mind as in deed. Kinsey was especially interested in fantasy during masturbation.

He found that 89% of men who masturbated fantasized but only 64% of women did, and men did so much more regularly.

But how do women fantasize? Do I have your permission to dig deeper…well let’s carry on.

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The Figures Must Be Much Higher Today

I believe the figure would be much higher for women today just from my own experiences and through conversations with readers of my website. The figurewomen-fantasizing will also be higher now because sexual fantasizing is considered normal and appropriate for both sexes.

Plus anyone who knows me will attest that I truly believe that fantasizing is key to a healthily lifestyle and maximising the pleasure anyone can get from their own body.

To get further in to the fantasy topic it is interesting to note that although men still fantasize more during masturbation than women; there is evidence that women fantasize as much or even more than men during intercourse (I know I have had too when some uninspired man thinks he is making “sweet love” to me).

I think the reason women probably fantasize more is because for most women the physical stimulation of intercourse isn’t enough to bring her to orgasm.

We Are More Enlightened Today

In today’s more sexual enlightened world; writers and the media now encourage women to use fantasy to enhance their sexual experiences. Many people (including some psychotherapists) presumed that women who fantasized during sex were neurotic, bored, unhappy or frustrated.

The fact is E. Barbara Hariton during her studies in 1973 found no instance of emotional instability in these women. Instead they tended to be creative, nonconformist, sexually active and satisfied.

What Happens In Their Fantasies? How Women Fantasize

In their fantasies people of both sexes tend to imagine forbidden activities, or other sexual partners. However, certain themes are more characteristic of one sex than of the other…..

Men are likelier than women to think about group sex, sex with a stranger, forcing women to have sex or overcoming a woman’s initial resistance. Women are likelier than men to think about romantic situations or being overpowered.

Fantasies involving force by the way usually don’t include physical violence or psychological degradation and therefore should not be considered rape fantasies.

For both men and women fantasies are a way of mentally role-playing certain cultural erotic roles or of experiencing a side of oneself that they cannot or would not want to be expressed in real life.

Undeniably most fantasies have little to do with reality. For example Hariton found that those women who fantasised about being dominated sexually are most often in their real lives professionally successful people.

Conclusions

In conclusion sexual fantasies are normal among the majority of both men and women in self pleasure and intercourse situations. It is fun and can en-heighten any sexual situation.

I even sometimes find it fun and great foreplay to get a partner to talk to me about their sexual fantasises and who knows that discussion could lead to some exciting new sexual experiences that you never ever dreamed of.

As far as I am concerned I conclude –

“Just let you mind wander and then your hands do the rest!…..

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May 3, 2009

Gene Scarborough @ 2:52 am #

Holly, I think you are exactly right. The first and most important aspect of a sexual relationship is that both partners or the individual explore what turns them on. My experience over some 40 years of a normal sexual relationship with one person is that our fantasies and realities have vastly changed over those 40 years. I am married to a somewhat conservative, but lusty woman. She has just revealed to me how during pregnancy and my busy career, she masterbated during the last trimester.____This indicated to me there is a drive in women to perpare their bodies for childbirth. In both births she had a relatively quick and easy delivery. The same muscles which produce a child are involved in orgasm. I suspect the hormonal release after orgasm is a further help to give a woman a sense of total peace and relaxation. She is not what one would call "kinky." Rather she is a healthy southern girl with a considerable libido. I have felt it my responsibility as a loving husband to make sure she has her orgasm before, during, or after I have mine. In the few times when we have missed each other we have both felt a great sense of frustration and made it up the next time.____

Gene Scarborough 2 @ 2:54 am #

We have been separated sometimes for 3-4 weeks, but phone sex was a great substitute. I bought her a natural sized and shaped dildo when we were apart. She recently told me that although it was not as good as me, it gave her a unique and intense pleasure and orgasm while we talked over the phone. I found my hand to be a much greater companion at that time than in our pre-marriage days when I just had to find relief after some intense and exciting foreplay. Neither of us could barely wait until the "I DO'S" so we could consumate our passion for each other.

We have been separated sometimes for 3-4 weeks, but phone sex was a great substitute. I bought her a natural sized and shaped dildo when we were apart. She recently told me that although it was not as good as me, it gave her a unique and intense pleasure and orgasm while we talked over the phone. I found my hand to be a much greater companion at that time than in our pre-marriage days when I just had to find relief after some intense and exciting foreplay. Neither of us could barely wait until the "I DO'S" so we could consumate our passion for each other.

Gene Scarborough 3 @ 2:58 am #

Now that we are in our 60's we find fantasy and great way to enhance our sexual experience. Thanks to your information, I have been able to talk my conservative southern girl into getting out the natural playtoy and use it again with me involved. I give her the same stimulation of neck kisses, ear nibbling, breast and nipple play, and rubbing from tummy to feet while she uses the vibrations and rubs of the dildo to enjoy reaching her climax. It is exciting for me and makes me ready to enter her and give her my real stimulation and release which she craves from the bottom of her female anatomy.

She is so spoiled to my ejaculation that she finds her experience incomplete without it. There have been times when work, destraction, and pure old age have prevented me from reaching climax. The great advice and detail of instruction from you has not prevented my wife from getting her pleasure and release followed by her sense of total relaxation. I believe this is essential to peace of mind and a healthy body in our older years.

Gene Scarborough @ 3:00 am #

My fantasy of watching a woman pleasure herself with a dildo has become a reality. It stimulates me to crank up a good ejaculation so that my wife may be truely happy and completed.

Years ago in a sociology class there was an attempt to define "love." The definition which emerged was: "Love exists when the satisfaction and security of another becomes as important as one's own." I felt that was fairly accurate. It revolves around the satisfaction needed by the individual to feel completed. If one is not fortunate enough to have the real emotional companion, then I think it is essential that fantasy make up for the difference. Us fortunate few enjoy the ying and yang of male and female coupling. However, in God's great wisdom, I believe he gave us the ability to fantasize to enhance whatever physical things take place in the sexual experience.

Keep up the good work and input. It is extremely important in this sexually confused world.

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